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The "EX"
Female.
So me and my boyfriend of 3 months broke up two weeks ago because he lied a lot and was just constantly drama. A couple days after that he was telling me he still loved me and wanted to get back together and he was depressed and missed me and i told him we needed to focus on moving on. So it took a couple days, but we decided we could be friends. So on the 5ht day after we broke up he told one of his friends he wanted me to die, that i was a bitch, and he hated me for ruining our relationship.
He acted like he didnt care about me in front of everybody and didn't even talk to me; which was fine because i quit texting him and talking to him also. But then he started sending me messages saything that he missed me and he was hiding his feelings at school but he still loved me and wanted me back. So a week and a half after we broke up, he started bringing pictures to school of this other girl. He said it was his girlfriend and that he was going to sneak her over to his house and spend some time together. This was only a week and half after we broke up. So i sent him a message saying, "Wow, you moved on fast!" He sent me one back saying he hadn't moved on, he just got a girlfriend to get over me.He said he still loved me and anytime i wanted him, he would drop his girlfriend and date me again.
Well i told him that i would never want to date him again and that i would never need him. Then he got really mad and told me not to talk to him anymore. But after that he kept sending me messages saying sorry and he wanted to talk to me but i ignored them all. I ignored him at school even when he wore a sign on his back that said "i have a hot ass girlfriend." But he would still send me messages saying i am gonna break up with her because it is to hard on me. I still love you so much.
So, i went out to the movies with two of my friends and he was there with his girlfriend and my mouth dropped open. So he mocked me when i did that. He got the satisfaction that he wanted. All of my friends that he had talked to say that he is only going out with her to make me mad and jealous. So when my mouth dropped open, and he mocked me doing it, he got the pleasure of knowing that i was jealous and suprised. Because, he told me he was breaking up with her. So he sends me a message right after i see him saying "Sorry you had to see that." I texted back and said "Aww, yall are so cute!" Then he said "Thanks, you looked really good, and please text me and not be mad." I said, "Well i told you to move on so i am not mad."
We were really close as a copule and thats why i am so shocked to see that he was with another girl only a week and a half after we broke up. The first few days after we broke up, he would send me voicemails crying and would be very depressed. But then this happens. At school, he acts like he dosen't care and dosen't talk to me. But after school, it's a different story.
So after tonight, he saw that i was jealous. I try eveyday to act like i don't care and get on with my life. But it is SO HARD. I always find myself looking at him wondering how he could get a girlfriend so quick but at the same time, texting me and telling me he hasn't moved on. And he told me he was going to break up with her but he never did. So now, i don't know how to act. I always act like i don't care but it was so satisfying for him letting me see him with his new girlfriend. I am not texting him anymore and i don't want him to think i care. If he loves me why would he be with her even if he is trying to make me jealous? I am confused. Please let me know what to do. Thanks!
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I'd love to tell you what to do :), unfortunately I'm not you, so I can only give you this advice.
Love is a deep and huge confusing thing. One minute you think you love someone and the next minute you don't.
When you like someone, it's hard to let them go. But you have to remember, in the end you must choose what's best for you.
Is this relationship really worth it? Was it great when you were dating? And does his actions feel like loving actions?
It seems your ex, has given you allot to think about. I notice you said that he has given you allot of drama before, that's why you broke up. But it looks like he's still giving you drama after the break up.
Also if he is dating another girl to get you jealous, it doesn't seem that he's sincere with his feelings. Nor is it fair to the other girl. Wearing shirts around you, ignoring you, and mocking you in public isn't exactly the right way to show love.
It also must be extremely hard for you because you let him go, and he's constantly throwing it back in your face. This isn't mature, nor is it helping the situation at all.
You also don't want to be the reason why he broke up with another girl. It's not fair to you nor the other girl.
If he truly does love you, then that's great, but he's not doing a good job of showing it.
You have a choice to make: You can either get back together with him. Have him break up with that girl, and allow him to have two girls fight over him.
Or you can choose to remove yourself from the situation, and stop texting him.
It's good that your trying not to give him any satisfaction. Remeber your worth true love, and you're better then all this drama.
But in the end you have to do what you think is best. Will getting back together be good decision? Or will it be a mistake?
Good luck and Best wishes, and I hope this helps.
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You've made a good decision by not falling for his tricks and texting him a lot. But you really need to cut off communication altogether. From what you've said, he sounds very immature. By wearing a sign on his back talking about his girlfriend, he's proving what an immature little twirp he is.
I think he's lying to everyone involved. He's lying to himself, you, the people at school, and his new girlfriend. I think what is probably happening is that at school, he's around people and feeling fine. He then goes home, starts thinking, misses you, calls/texts you whining about how much he loves you.
You're absolutely right. If he loved you, he would no being dating another girl so quickly just to make you jealous. I very seriously doubt he's dating this girl to make you jealous. It sounds to me like he's just trying to move on too quickly. He's with another girl even though he's not fully over you.
Either way, you deserve much better. The plus side to this is that school should be over soon for the summer. When school is over, you won't have to see him at all. Unless, of course, you run into him like you did tonight (ouch). He's not being a good boyfriend/ex-boyfriend/friend, whatever. He's just causing pain and doing it flagrantly.
Try your best to steer clear of him. Don't respond to e-mails/calls/texts/messages/voicemails. Any form of communication he throws at you should be ignored. That's the only way to show him that he's not going to get away with telling you one thing and doing another. It also will be the easiest way for you to move on from him.
Good luck,
Darby(:
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