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i never know what to say to him and i still like him
I told my guy friend I liked him and month and a half ago and it took him totally off guard and he didn't respond to it. We didn't talk for about 3 days but when I finally spoke to him I told him was sorry that I freaked him out and he said it was okay and that I just kindof scared the shit out of him. That was the last time we spoke about it. We're friends now, but things are still kindof awkward, especially when we're alone (and when I say alone like alone in certain classes when our friends are sitting somewhere else or something, we don't really hang out). My friend (who's his cose friend) tried to get him to give me a clear answer about it and he wouldn't. And I know that it probably means that he just wants to be friends, but I still kindof hate that he won't just say it. And in the past week or two, it KINDA seems like he might like me back or might be thinking about it more but I can't be too sure. But my issue is I just never know what to say to him sometimes. Most of the time I never shut the hell up, and when we're alone I can't think of ANYTHING. And not that he's anti-social because he's not, but he's not a huge talker, but mostly that's only the case when other people aren't talking to him. Like today in gym we were playing wiffleball and our other friend was on the other team so I had plenty of chances to say stuff but I didn't. I mean every now and then we would look at each other and laugh when something funny happened and we would saying a couple of quick things but that's it. And the funny thing is he would be the one to say things and look at me first when we laughed, if you get what I mean. We talk a lot more when our friends are there though. And we don't really text either, and I always want to but I never know what to say and I feel like I have to have a good reason to. I don't know, I still really want him to like me, but I don't want to be pushy and stuff. And even if I have to continue settling for friends I still want to be able to talk to him more. But still, I suck at talking to guys I like, I suck at flirting, I say stupid things sometimes, it sucks. I just want to be able to hold a conversaton with him more and be able to text him without thinking he'll think "wow why is she talking to me she should leave me alone". I want to get him to like me more than a friend though, and it's hard to even bring up what happened with him because according to the friend that's closer to him, it's hard to read him and get him to say what's on his mind. After memorial weekend we only have 3 full weeks left and not much time to talk during regents and finals. He'll be away for certain parts of the summer, and I'm scared that I'll wimp out of talking to him at all this summer and this whole thing will be forgotten by the start of next school year, and who knows how many classes we'll have together then. I'm so bad at this type of thing, and it doesn't make it easier that he's a hard guy to reach. But I really like him, and whether I get him to like me back or just settle for friends, I don't want to continue wasting time not making any conversation anymore. How can I hold conversations with him better in person and through text? And how can I possibly get him to like me back & see me as more of a friend without being too pushy? (and I still never got a direct answer from him at all, so keep that in mind)
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If I were in your position and I really liked the guy, and there was a good chance the guy liked me back (I'd ask a few friends on their opinions on this just in case you're misinterpreting some signs), this is what I would do-
I'd talk to him more often than you are now. Start with school-related stuff- like, in gym, say something like, "that serve you made earlier was sick." it will hopefully get the conversation flowing. In the other classes, talk about the teacher's lesson or something funny that happened in class. If you REALLY can't think of anythign to say, ask for homework help, if you need it or not.
In the last few weeks before school ends, right before a stretch of time where you don't see him often (like, before a long weekend- Memorial Day weekend is coming up, we get Monday off here) I'd leave a note in his locker (or get someone else to do it for you) before the day ends, expressing your feelings. Make it short and make sure to tell him to be blunt if he doesn't feel the same way about you, so he won't lead you on. If he says no now though, let it go. There are so many other great guys out there, so don't get too down if things don't go your way this time.
Hope I helped, hon <3 Good luck!
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