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guys.
Alright so I'm nearly 16 (girl) and I've never had a boyfriend. Its not that there's somethign wrong with me or anything, its just that I'm not super outgoing or the type of person to flirt with a guy who I don't actually like. Nobody really dates at my school (I'm not kidding, there aren't that many relationships within the school, most kids' bfs/gfs go to other schools) and I don't really know many kids from other schools (haha I know, loser, right).
I never really cared about getting a boyfriend before cause it was just like, whatever, and I never really thought I was ready for it, but now I think I am and am ready to start looking this summer. Not to sound cocky but I don't think I'd necessarily have a problem getting a boyfriend, I'm fairly attractive and have a great personality (or so I've been told, haha) I just don't know where to look. So where are good places to meet guys? And what are good techniques to get the guy to make the first move?
Haha I know this sounds really lame but I don't have a lot of experience in dating and I pride myself on taking relationships slow so that they actually mean something. I don't want to date for fun, I want to date to find meaning. So I don't want to be picking up any sleazy guys hahaa
thanks so much :)
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Hello.
Right you're not a loser so stop putting yourself down joking or not!!
I'll tell you something else most girls are in the exact same position of you. I've even caught a friend out lying about having a boyfriend once because she was that sure that if she didn't have one people wouldn't think she was "behind" them.
It's really good that you want to take things slow and find the right guy instead of just rushing straight into a relationship with any old "fool" and when you do find your perfect boy it will be extra special and he should respect you for knowing that you havn't been throwing yourself at whatever boy comes along!!
As for meeting boys try joing a new group or a new club and getting to know other people, hang around with any boy mates you may have more often and you will get to know how they behave plus boys love to flirt with their girl mates in a friendly way though so that would be some practice in the flirting area and don't forget boys have boy mates so you never know where that might lead when you meet some of their other boy friends!!
Remember to just enjoy yourself, have a good time and be yourself. Boyfriend/girlfriend relationships arn't everything!!
Good luck and let Me know how it goes.
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DEAR jane doe
i know it's hard but you should wait til your older like 18 or 20 that way the rest of your life
you can find boyfreind find love than do the thing
with that special someone i know it's gonna be hard to wait when you get see a boy and get urges
you must wait this way you will be ready at the proper age to mate and other resaults and as for the rest of your school what the hell is wrong
with them are they zommbies ?
sincerley: catwoman
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wow..you sound exactly like me when I was turning 16! lol...well I'm 17 now...so anyways, first of all, you shouldn't really worry about it too much because I know of girls who never had a bf until they were 18..lol..but yeah if you really want a bf and you don't think you can start dating some guy from your school..then some good places would be:
~the movies
~malls
~coffee shops
~teen clubs (I've tried that, but I don't think you can find a guy who wants a meaningful relationship there..lol..at least I didn't...maybe you'd have better luck..)
~you can try joining like sports teams or clubs where there would be guys and it's something that you're interested in...
Well those are some options...
Here are some techniques to get the guy to make the 1st move:
~you can try flirting from far away...that would be like the basics like checking the guy out and smiling at him from a distance...so then maybe he'll get the hint and aproach you.
~Or you can get a friend to introduce you to some guys...so that can widen your social circle of guys..lol.. :p
And just you know..yeah try networking..lol..
And don't be afraid to aproach a guy because chances are he's more afraid of you..lol..because pretty girls can be intimidating to a guy..if he really likes you...unless he's a player then he won't be intimidated. lol...but yeah I'm pretty sure there's tons of guys who like you..they just don't know how to aproach you..so give them a break and try aproaching them...even though it may seem impossible..lol..i know..but how else can you expect to get out there into the dating world?..
Well you already have the confidence..which is good. So then this should be easier for you! :)
Well I hope I helped!! :)
And good luck!
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