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"Intimate"?
This is more for the older crowd on the site, but I'm open to all ideas, I suppose.
I'm 21, he's 23. For physical reasons I won't disclose here, my boyfriend and I can't have sex or do anything sexual for awhile. He's dealing with some depression symptoms, and saw his psychiatrist today. She said we should do everything we can to be intimate.
But I need some ideas as to how, exactly, to do that without airing on the sexual side of things. Sex has always been the icing on the cake for our relationship, but we both have pretty strong sex drives. We haven't been very close physically as of late, and it's kinda driving me crazy. I don't NEED to have sex with him to love him, or to show him I love him, but I need some kind of closeness. I'm just not sure how to go about handling this with him. Even hugging me sometimes gets him all hot 'n' bothered, and that's a big part of the problem.
What do I do?
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After having a baby me and my husband could not either. We both have strong sex drives too. Where the same age that must be why. LOL. We did it though and it was hard. Showering together was impossible without him getting aroused. Actually we did romantic candle light dinners. Cuddling up at the theaters not home..helps prevent..
Long talks about the past and really just think up a geeky guy in school thats a lovey dovey corny person. Do corny stuff to say I love you. Surprise him with a big breakfast or dinner with I love you cake or somethin ridiculous cheesey to not be aroused but laugh. He'll know you did all that for him and that you do love him.
Make it cheesey corny stuff that says I love you and laugh. Only way it doesnt lead to more. Well it worked for me..
Hope this helps!!
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Here are a few things to try...
- Showering together. It doesn't have to be sexual, but it is very intimate.
- Cooking together.
- Feed each other (sounds really corny, I know, but it's actually pretty fun). A suggestion; do this with finger foods, because spaghetti isn't the best choice.
- Pick up a book on massage. One of my fiance's favourites is a hand massage.
- Go for long walks, and either walk hand in hand or with your arm linked through his.
- When you're on the couch, sit with your legs apart and have him sit between them and lean back on you (instead of the opposite). This keeps you from grinding against him by accident, but still provides the nice cuddliness.
- Grooming each other is also a good bonding exercise. I pluck my fiance's eyebrows every once in a while, or he'll brush my hair. Silly little things, but it lets each of you into a solitary part of the other's life.
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