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jealousy
i have to admit, i get pretty jealous when i see my boyfriend just talk to a girl. or if a girl just says hi to him. i know, that's not something to get jealous over. maybe because the beginning of the relationship, i caught him flirting with another girl behind my back. i guess i lost some trust, or maybe i just really like him. i'm not sure what it is, but i really hate the fact that i get jealousy really easily. i don't say anything, because i know it's not that big so i try to control it. he told me he gets bothered by the fact that i meet new guys every once and a while. which i'm not sure why, because we can still do what we've been doing even when we're going out right? i have to admit, everytime i get jealous over a girl... i try to get my boyfriend jealous, but it never seems to work. i hate the fact that i try to get him jealous, but it sometimes seems like he doesn't really care what's going on around me. he says he does, but why does it seem like it doesn't? a guy could sit there and try to hug me, and he doesn't do anything. he saw another guy try to flirt with me, but he acts like it's nothing. again, he said he does care... but why doesn't he show it?
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First off, it's natural to be jealous of girls who are flirting with your boyfriend. To a point, of course. For guys, it's like second nature for some of them to flirt with other girls. It's just sort of how they are. I would definitely try to not be quite so jealous, and I know you said you're trying, but try to understand: throughout your lives', you're both going to have to talk people of the opposite gender. So maybe you should try to get him alone (and preferably when he's in a good mood=)), and try to talk it out - kindly and calmly. That doesn't work for all people, but it does for some. It can't hurt to try.
Trying to get your boyfriend jealous... I get that you want to - and why - but it's really not worth it. Things like that always seem to end up for the worst.
As for him not acting like he cares if you're with another guy, but then later says he does - it could be (for some guys) that he doesn't like to show things like emotion, hurt, jealousy, etc. So he could just be trying to act all nonchalant, when really it is bothering him.
So I would definitely try to sit down and talk about all this with him. Hopefully that might help. I'm not an expert on this, but I thought I'd give you my two-sense worth. Hope it helps. =)
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