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I'm 18/F and finishing up my freshman year in college, and i've been dating my b/f for over 2 years now. he's 20 and about to graduate high school. he's had a really rough life with family issues and school, and he recently got denied from an electrical program, which was his only plan for the future. he just told me yesterday that he wants to join the marines. it made my entire day miserable and finally i cried and begged him not to go because i can't stand the fact of him going into the marines. now i'm the only reason why he won't sign up for it, and i'm starting to feel really guilty about it. however, he told me that he wanted to join because of me, because he wanted to fix all his flaws that i didn't like about him, and he thinks if he doesn't join, he won't be able to provide for me in the future. i really love him and i'm scared that if he goes into the marines, we won't be together ever again. am i being selfish for keeping him here? i really don't want him to go.
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Although you two have been together for quite a while, the fact remains that you are not married. The decisions he makes should be based on his own desires and wants. You should definitely be an influence on him but not the deciding factor. Love is difficult. And I know that you two are in a hard place in your relationship but you can get through it. I know I'm speaking from the outside looking in. But my boyfriend is in the military. And I know how it feels to worry, I know how it feels to be scared, and i know how it feels to be away from your loved one. But we are getting through it. Its challenging but it can be done. I think you should let him know how you feel but support him no matter what his decision is, if you're in it for the long run.
I really hope it works out
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