well i know it hasn't been too long since i last asked a for help on Advicenators but i figured since you're the only one whose giving my solid practical advice i'd turn to you... So when i mentioned that i went up to him and asked for random things i was referring to something that happened recently... I went up to him and pretended to need a paper clip and caught him off guard he was surprised being to busy focused on his work... and he smiled and said "i'll give you two instead!" (he works at the campus i go to) i said thank you and walked away... i was thinking of buying a bag or so of paper clips and returning the gesture... but i don't know how to do that... and what to say.... and i don't know if i'd embarrass him and myself in front of all the million people that come and go and linger in front of his desk.. he doesn't look at me when he's with someone... and i could understand because i don't look at him when i am with someone... what should i do????
i know i should be patient but i hate these little interactions which makes you feel good but gets you no where! he's not acting and its making me anxious... i don't feel like i have what it takes to get a man coming my way!!
Additional info, added Friday March 27 2009, 6:49 pm: something unexpected threw me off today and i am so shocked i don't know what to think... the guy that works next to him (i met once and went out for lunch as friends about a year or 2 back and then we never kept in touch... coz a i am new here and a frnd of mine that is from here introduced me to him so i'll be a little more acquainted with the place, and now i am not sure if he recognizes me i dropped weight i am like 115 from 125 and i have a new hairdo and new style) anyway so i was sat again near his area but not in his vicinity and not because i wanted to be around him i was having a bad day and needed to finish some reading and this is sort of my usual place... so this guy (not the one i like) was about to leave and was standing with his frnds behind me and i was with 2 other friends, one was talking to me and the other one went to the coffee place next to our table and noticed something really really strange. he pointed at me while saying to the other guys that girl... i didn't hear it and my other friend standing in line noticed it and told me. she doesn't know the story ... no one knows.and she asks me, do you know those guys i say why she says because they said something like see that girl... i just ignored it to not make anything of it... but i don't know whether the other guy told him something (because they aren't friends) or whether he recognizes me and thinks i like him instead... i don't know what the case is... but i am just to tiered of this whole thing... the emotional turbulence, the false anticipation...etc should i just let it go? i mean i have other priority "hang out zones" and i am just here (i know desperate but true) to see whether or not things will work out..... i can't really tell what my gut is telling me.... but i'd rather convince myself that i am just the other guy's (the guy i like) ego boost and get on with life... its taking too long for anything to surface and i am not one whose use to this.... so i guess i just answered myself then... let it go... it helps to know someone is listening to this venting episode so sorry about this unnecessary drama and waste of inbox space!. Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category? Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life? Juxtapose answered Friday March 27 2009, 1:57 am: Well you are right.. you answered your own question. Just in case you want to know my answer, I agree with you. you might be giving too much attention to this situation when in reality you should not have. it's only making you confused and frustrated. if the guy really likes you, sooner or later he will seek you out even if you are not there anymore. it could be he's just shy or busy or whatever. You have other things to do as you said. so go do them. It doesn't hurt to mingle with other people. You don't have to wait and wait for him. Just let things be. and you'll see everything will be okay. and by the way, i enjoyed answering your questions so thank you too. [ Juxtapose's advice column | Ask Juxtapose A Question ]
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