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Its been over 3 yrs...
This is gonna be long and I apologize for that but I appreciate anyone who takes the time to read and answer. Im 21/f and I have been with my girlfriend for over 2 yrs now. Im happy with her and we have an apartment together and dogs so obviously its a serious relationship. The problem is Im still not totally over my ex boyfriend who I broke up with over close to 4 yrs ago.
Let me give a little background. He was like my first true love and he was a great boyfriend. I was like his princess. He loved me more than I could even explain and was always there for me no matter what. When me and him broke up, we were together for over 3 yrs and I broke up with him for another guy. After we broke up we still talked for about 6 months during which I was going back and forth between him and the guy I broke up with him for and throughout that time I did some pretty horrible things to him which has caused us to not even be able to have a friendship.
So now, over 3 yrs after the breakup and about 3 yrs since we have cut all ties from each other I still find myself thinking about him. I dont know if its because I still have feelings or just because he was like my highschool sweetheart and first love or because I can never communicate with him again or what. I saw him the other day when I was on my way home and I looked at him and he looked at me and it just gave me butterflies. I just wonder if he thinks about me and what he thinks and where we would be right now if i never would have broke up with him and I just long for the type of love he had for me. Its kinda like one of those you dont know what you have till its gone type of things. My current girlfriend loves me and I know that, but she doesnt love me the way he did and I dont really think anyone ever will. He would just stare at me in adoration. I was everything to him and I broke his heart. And the weird thing is my girlfriend knows about him because me and her were friends while I was with him and sometimes when were fighting or having a rough patch she will say to me, why dont you go back to cory? she will say that I will never be over him and me and him are perfect for each other. I just wish I could talk to him. I wish I could have a friendship with him. But he made it clear that he doesnt want that and I dont have any way to contact him anyway bc he has a different number now and he deleted him myspace and facebook. And the weird thing is, even if I had the chance to be with him again, I dont think I would. I wouldnt leave my girlfriend for him. So why do I think about him still?
I would just love some opinions or advice. Thanks for taking the time to read this.
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iv been in the exact same situation and it just hurts and you think about him all the time and just wounder what he thinks of and wounder if he still wants you and all that stuff..well you know its been 3 years and he could of changed turned into a completely different person and that guy you love may have disapeared..you still think about it because you miss it and you want that connection back.your gf doesnt treat you the way he did and the way he did made you feel soo special and soo happy and you dont feel that sort of emotions with ur gf.you just need to concentrate on loving ur gf because you said yourrself you to wont get back together so you may aswell put him in your past even though its hard just stop thinking about him and the way he was with you because hes long gone and may have completly changed aswell..i hope this helps
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Well. I think it's pretty normal, maybe you think about him because you a silght crush on him again or because you always remember the good times and seek for it again or because you feel guitly for breaking his heart and you're seeking for forgivens.
But what you should do right now, forbidden you mind to think of him and get over him.
I would personally tell you otherwise if you haven't mentioned that you would never leave your girlfriend but that is a good thing that you wou;dn't break her heart.
and a little advices distances makes you forgest and that is from a little self experience.
Good Luck=]=]
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