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bestfriend?
hia, well ive known my bestfriend (louise) since we was in infants and now were in seniors + when we left in year 6 we didnt start talking again til a while ago - year 8 (sorry if this is confusing!). there was a girl.. ellie; who lived near her house + they become really good friends in the space of time i didnt speak to her and now there like bestfriends but about 7 months ago ellie moved faraway now shes come back and when she was there louise slagged ellie of to me 24/7 and she was with me all the time and she said to me when ellie moves back it wont be the same, we dont even talk on msn and when i do see her i dont like looking at her. and she promised me wen she moved back this wasnt going to happen and now ellies back here louise doent ever want to see me and when she does she just talks about ellie.. and last night me and louise had an aruement and she said some of the most horiblest things ever :(. now ellies got what she wanted because louise hates me now! + tbh i dont think she will be talking to me again for a while.. she said in the arguement that she always tried to make me happy and see me more than ellie, but that wasnt tru? she wouldnt ever see it from my point of view so how could she take ellies side!?
what shall i do ?
thanks for any adivice. x
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It seems that either your friend is taking you for granted or she just has stronger chemistry with Ellie. My solution to the problem initially would have been for you to try and get to know Ellie so that it won't be akward and you would just become a trio of friends. That way everyone could be happy and get along. The problme with that seems to be that you and Ellie either don't get along, or don't know eachother well. It does seem to me that your friend had chosen Ellie's side since she is not hanging out with you since Ellie's return. I am sure that the argument was brutal, but after a cooling period of about a few days to a week...you and your friend should be able to talk things out in a calm mature manner. You obviously care about the frienship, so I think that you should make another effort to talk to her and be sure to get all of your feelings out on the table. Make sure that you don't walk away from the conversation wishing you had said things that you let pass you by. If she really is your genuine friend, she will atleast attempt to feel your pain and try to come to some agreement. If she does not...and seems not to care,you have to let her go because the friendship may have reached a close for the time being. That does not mean that the two of you can never be friends again, but that right now it just isn't working. Sometimes we don't realize that the title of a "best-friend" is a serious one to live up to. Just because the two of you have known eachother forever does not mean that you are or have to be best friends. if the relationship that the two of you share no longer fits the definition, then she is not your best friend. Take your cues from her and treat her as you would want to be treated. If she is not interested in being good friends with you, you have to broaden your circle and hang out with some other friends. Don't limit yourself to only her and her mood swings. Hang out and meet people and if she isn't it...you will meet other friends to treat you as you would like.
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