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is this a horrible idea..and is he gonna try and rape?
okayy im SO sorry for the length of this. :[ like i really didnt think it would come out to be THIS long haha. so basically, your a guy and i just wanna see your perspective on this guy and why you think he is doing this to me.
About december 6, i met this guy who is a freshman, at my best friend's house. i am a sophomore. he slept over because he is friends with my best friend's brother. we really hit it off and had a lot of fun all 5 of us. a week later he messaged me and asked for my number [he liked me] then a day later he told me he didnt want a girlfriend but wanted my body and to have good times with me..whatever. we didnt talk for two weeks. he said he liked someone else. [girl who lives an hour away] and i guess i didnt care too much. then he randomly started talking to me again, it was weird. we decided to go to our friends' house january 3 and sleepover. the night before, he was IMing me but saying it was his friend talking. then his "friend" [it was him but he didnt want me to know] was asking if i would do stuff with him. and if he could make a move. and i said yeah sure. so i show up at their house, he barely talks to me. we flirted a little but i could tell he didnt really wanna talk to me. i went home the next day crying. he IMs me again three days later. and asks if next time i would give him a handjob. as an expiriment i said yeah probobly. idontknowhwy i did that. but ever since then hes been gradually getting worse. and worse. he has gotten completely perverted and disgusting with me. he treats me like a hooker. he once asked if he gave me $20 if i would give him a blowjob.[no! ] thats pathetic. oh and on my birthday which was january 30 [he knew it was my bday..] he texted me and didnt even say happy bday, but instead said, so are we still doin those things? and i just said, yeah why do you ask haha and he goes, ok good so send me a picture of you in your panties . i said my friends were over and he said he was hanging out with some people. he obviously wanted to show it off to his friends. i got annoyed and of course didnt send it. then the next night, he IMs me and says "so how come you never sent it" and i told him it would be a bad idea and he goes, um no it is a good idea so send it. i was feeling under so much pressure and i was like would you be mad if i didnt send it..and he said, um yeah kinda. so of course i didnt want him to stop talking to me and i asked what would be acceptable for him. [i was so pissed] and he said really tight pants and cleavage so i just took a picture of my butt in jeans and then one of my chest in a tank top. he asked every minute, yeah so did you send it yet? did you send it? send it baby i want you on me now send it! and as if i didnt feel uncomfortable already. so i did send them and then i just felt gross after what he said. he was like yes so nice baby i love you haha you have such nice tits can i just never stop playing with them? ugh i felt so gross. i seriously felt like a hoe. anyways, a few days later i IMed him and the first thing he says to me is hey i your rack and i just said haha thanks. and he was like, no your supposed to say i want your dick in my mouth.
can u believe that?! WE ARE NOT EVEN DATING. I HAVE NOT SEEN HIM IN OVER A MONTH.
and then our whole conversation was him begging for a bj and i kept saying sorry no i dont think so and then he just told me he wanted a deepthroat. and i kept saying that would make no sense since we arent even dating. and then he made me feel all bad and said oh yeah your a good girl who only gives handjobs and no bjs i forgot. ..you do not say that to a girl. you just dont. ugh he is such a tool.
anyways. after that day we didnt talk for about two weeks..he just never contacted me again. so last sunday i decided to IM him. i was SO confused. so i say, hey and all i get from him is a hi. then i ask, whatsup and he never answered. clearly, he did not want to talk to me. i felt stupid and just signed off of facebook. then just now when im finally started to get over him, he IMs me and asks about my status which was, happyy. he asks, why are you happy? and i said, cause today was a good day haha
then he says, and your thinkin bout me and your vag were doin it sooon
and then i said haha yeahh im just wondering how come we havent talked in like two weeks? and he just says, i dont know
..so then i say and when are we doing this cause we always talk about it but it hasnt happened. then he never answered. ten minutes later i asked, did you like not get that ? and he still just ignored it. and i KNOW he saw it cause he changed his facebook status during the time he didnt answer. this is so sketchy of him. why do you think he would IM me and ask why im happy.. and then just think its okay for him to not answer when i ask about something that he clearly still wants to do?! i dont get it! does he still want me?
okay and also im kind of afraid that hes gonna try and butt rape me. no joke. so he IMed me thursday night and we were talking but pretty much only about sex cause uh thats all he EVER talks to me about now [he didnt used to do that.] and so he was like i bet ur gonna want it in you one time real quick not in your vag though and i was just like, well i dont know about that..and then he was like, yeah baby one time in your not gonna want it out
and hes said things like that before he begged me once. and hes also begged me for a bj so many times after i keep saying sorry but that would make me a slut since we arent even dating and then he just would go on and on and say no it wouldnt come on baby itd be so hot and good come on
and then he gets kind of mad when i say no..i feel like hes gonna try and force it in my mouth. i know thats awkward to say but last time we talked he told me to moan and then i said yeahh and then he was like ill put somethin in your mouth to stop it
like ugh. i dont know. i hope he doesnt try and force things on me..
sorry that was so obnoctiously long. haha
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Yes, that was long!! lol You ramble a bit too. It's okay thought. It's actually cute because it's like you are actually talking. Okay, I'll try to give you my perspective on alot of this. Younger guys are pretty clueless. The ones that do talk of sex and aren't embarassed are usually just stupid about it. I don't know hwat you want with relationships or guys or whatever. That is for you to decide. I will say this. This guy doesn't think very highly of you. Yes guys can get preoccupied with sex but it seems that he only wants you around to get him turned on. I don't know if he is a rapist or anything. But if he currently isn't even treating you like a person. So it wouldn't be all that suprising if he thought nothing of raping someone. It's hard to find guys and especially younger guys with class when it comes to sexual stuff. But he doesn't treat you well and I can't believe that the stuff he says makes you feel sexy. I what he does as either just pushing things to see what all you will agree to, stuff to make himself hard, or stuff to joke about with his friends. I don't know you but you are definitely too good to be a joke amongst that group. Basically, this guy is a douchebag. It doesn't seem he has any good qualities either. But as far as pics and the stuff he says, it works like this. he may start saying he wants a kiss, then he wants to feel you up, then he wants up your skirt or whatever. Basically, no matter what you'd give, he'd want more right after. Same with the pics. If you show cleavage afterwards he will want you topless. Then he will wanna see you naked. Then doing stuff. Basically there wouldn't be an end to that until you are having sex with someone and taking a pic of it. Every little bit you give is just a foothold to get more from you. I'm a nice guy and even nice guys hae that aprt to them wanting more. The thing is, you aren't going to makehim happy or love you through any of this. You aren't going to gain his friendship because of it either. There are some dirty guys that are really good guys. But more often than not, they are just pigs. Basically, any guy that ever makes an effort to talk to you is attracted to you. Any guy that is attracted to you wants to do sexual things with you. Surely one of them is better than this guy. The least he could do is ask you how your day was. This guy thinks of you as a blowup doll basically. He keeps you around for entertainment and such. When not busy with you, he puts you away until the next time he wants to use you. You're in a bad situation. If you get mad or tell him off about what he says, he will like the challenge. If you go with it, he'll just be like "oh what else?". You're best best is to cut this guy loose. It is a bit funny to hear his "style". He is pretty clueless. You don't turn a girl on that way. But i'd stay away from this guy. Yes he may be harmless. But he sounds creepy enough to like go thru your underwear too. I'd definitely not let him alone with you ever. He's likely to think that just because you went along with the teasing that he can do anything. I think he's prolly just a horny young guy and not a rapist. But sometimes rapists are just that. You just never know who may be that way. They do that cuz they get the person alone. Thy have to have earned some sort of trust to do that. Just be careful with him hun. Personally, I'd talk to him less. If you enjoy it and all that's different. But you seemed to feel pretty gross and unhappy with yourself when around him. You should feel special and good about yourself with guys. That'show it is when someone is worth your time. I hope was help. Feel free to ask me questions anytime. I'd love to help. Let me know if i made sense or helped.
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i dont know how to reply to what u just said so i'm doing it here. but i'd think you coudl find attention with someone else. but yes bad attention is better than no attention.
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