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how to act around this guy?
16/f/usa.
ive had a crush on this guy since the beginning of freshman year, then realized nothing could ever happen, so i moved on. We're friends, we talk a couple of times a week, I dont see him too much, hes a senior now I only have one class with him, and he sits on the other side of the room, so i cant really talk to him. And I have a crush on him again. I talk to him on aim a couple of times during the week, sometimes for hours, and i say hi or he pats me on the back or we exchange a few words at the end of class. He's a super nice guy, not a BAD kid at all! Takes priority in everything he does, hes nice to everyone. He's...not that typical dumbass, i mean it, he's really smart too, and me...im not the brightest crayon in the box, but im not a fricken idiot, my god haha, im pretty smart too and i have alot of goals that i want to achieve. Well, i see him in my class and as i walk to my seat, i pass him, i want to talk to him! i want to say hi...or something else...i have no idea what to say, or what to talk about, or how to approach him. If I see him in the hallways or at other school functions im too afriad to say anything to him...because im afraid i'll sound dumb or he wont even care or be intrested. I mean...why would he go for someone like me? I am i mean, smart, outgoing, and funny and not that bad looking i guess..but i want him to notice me more...how?
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The days after you talk on aim just say something like "oh u were so funny last night". I think flashing back to those converations may help when in class. Why don't you just walk up to him in class and go "Pez?" and with your hand pop open a pez dispenser. It will come as a suprise. Some people find it cute because pez is odd. Plus people usually don't turn it down. You now are standing by him with his attention. Heck, if you gotta be the Pez girl so be it. In time if you didn't offer him Pez, he'd probably be asking you why there isn't pez today. I know it's corny but it's just an ice breaker. You could just use the straight forward method by saying "i thought i'd come over and talk to you." it's simple. It is complimentary because it's basically saying he is the one you want to be talking to.
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It sounds like you really like this guy, but from something you said, it sounds like he just wants to stay friends. Body language is a good thing to learn to read. You mentioned he pats you on the back, he must do that often for you to say that. That is something guys do to their friends, they don't pat their girlfriends on the back. That body language is also something that people do to someone that is younger then them, that they feel higher then. Like, a teacher patting a student on the back, or a parent patting their child on the back. He may feel more like an older brother to you, then a possible boyfriend for you. 2 years may not seem like a lot of difference, but in high school, 2 years is a lot in maturity levels. Of course everyone matures at different rates, but it sounds like he is more mature then probably quite a few guys his age. Talk to him more often, say more then hi when you pass him in class. Flirt a little with him. If his body language starts to change with you, he gets more flirty or anything, then you may have a chance. Remember he will be gone next year, and most relationships dont work when someone goes to college and the other is still in high school.
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