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suspicious boyfriend
Well I saw your advice column and I must say I liked what I saw. "full time jerk" which in my book means you don't sugarcoat your advice and that's how I like it.
So I have a amazing boyfriend. He's nice, sweet,and just great. But he's a little bit too good. I looked at his myspace (Not in a snoppy way.) Because I wanted to leave him a cute little comment. And to be honest I was curious to see what other comments people were leaving him. Comments from his friends, cousins, brothers, and uh oh some girls (no big deal) BUT they were flirty comments (which is a minor irritation) and one girl was even talking about meeting him somewhere (huge problem).
I confronted my boyfriend about it and he did not really deny it he just said "I aint doing nothing, I aint playing you, I told her I had a girl". So I eventually backed off and haven't went on his mysapce since. And yet, he still seems too good to be true. I trust him but I don't.
Am I overreacting or am I thinking too much? Do I have trust issues? Opinion, advice, something please.
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You may be overreacting a little too much, it's natural because it is quite possible you have been hurt before in a similar relationship (or know someone who has)
Here's the deal... if he has something to hide, he would hide it, not leave it on his myspace page. That means he would want to get caught. So it is very possible he thought nothing of it. Don't take too much bad mojo if girls leave comments on his page, just be comfortable in knowing he's with you and not the other skanks.
That being said, don't be afraid to check his page (its public knowledge and other people obviously go there) and really talk about the people in both of your lives. If he's with you for the long haul, you should both know the people in each other's lives.
But remember, there are some things you should NEVER look at unless he lets you... those are: his bank account, his personal email, his cell phone, a journal (if he keeps one), and his mail. Looking at these without asking is a huge trust issue, but the myspace is just sitting for everyone to see, so go ahead and look, ask questions, and don't worry.
(PS you either trust someone or you don't, so if you cant shake that feeling after a while, you may want to consider dropping it altogether and save you both the hassle)
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