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Once again but I'm over him
So I've asked you questions before...obviously :P but anyways, I saw him at church and we didn't talk at all. But now his friends keep talking to me and asking, "are you okay? why are you upset? ect." I'm telling them nothing is wrong and keep asking why. But now they are telling me that my friend is gonna go out with him. He likes her now. Then his friend asked me, "Are you upset about that?" I said no. Then he asked, "so you'd still be friends with her even if she went out with him?" I said yeah. But I didn't know if she was or not. She wasn't there, so when she did get there I asked her about it and she said, "he did ask me out but I said no" I asked what else happened and she said, "I wouldn't go out with someone my friend has gone out with and that's just gross" Before I went out with him she liked him but he didn't like her. He liked me so like later she was over him I went out with him. My other friend kept encouraging me to. Now that friend that encouraged me is now telling her she should go out with him telling her that I'm ok with it even though I didn't say anything to her and she never asked. I mean I am, it would be awkward but I still don't care. So now my friend is kinda going behind my back telling different things to him and her. I told my friend that I'm ok with and that she could if she wanted to. She said she told him that he already missed his chance and blew it big time. She said she would consider it and wanted to know what I had to say. But now he is saying, "Its not like we were really going out, we were just friends" I tried talking to my other friend about whats going on and why she is bringing me into this when I shouldn't be. I don't want to be in this right now. I mean this doesn't really have anything to do with me anymore and yet they are still bringing me into this. I like someone else now and apparently to them I still have a boyfriend and I'm just not gonna deal with that cause I wasn't the one who even started that, my friend did. Now I don't know what I should do. Sorry for how long this was and thanks so much!
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Hi :] okay, to start off, this drama should not be involving you. Just because he is your ex, does not mean that you have to be involved with his problems and what he does with whoever he does it with, even if it is your friend. The reason that his friends are asking you if you're upset is because your ex wants to know, and doesn't want to ask you himself. He's obviously trying to get a reaction out of you, but don't waste your time, your eyes are set on a better guy anyways :]
When you questioned your friend who is rumored to be thinking about going out with your ex, she was obviously lying to you for fear that you'd be mad at her if she said she liked him. I mean, he was your ex, that's always a touchy subject for some people, yuh know? So you should confront her yourself and tell her to do what she wants, because it doesn't matter to you, because you honestly like someone else who is NOT your ex. and that she can have him, at her own risk ;].
For the friend that's going behind your back and twisting your words, don't let that go. You need to also confront her, face to face. set the record staright, with all of them around. You can't let other people do this for you, if you want people to know how you feel, then the only way to do that is to tell them yourself. They need to hear it from you, not your friend who is just creating more problems.
Seriously, the only way to resolve this is to sit them ALL down together. your ex, your friend who likes your ex, and your "encouraging friend" and tell them all that you are completly okay with what's happening, and that you don't mind at all. Tell them that and everything will be okay. You can do this in person, via phone, or e-mail. whatever you do, just be nice about it and it'll be smooth sailing from there. :]
Hope I helped ! if you need anything else, you can always send me an inbox :] xxo good luck
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