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lingerie
Hi,
Am a 25 yr old guy, i recently met a girl during a chat & want to present a valentine gift as we have planned to meet on same day. I thought i could present her with nice pair of lingerie as it would b sexy, however when i asked her about her vital stats she refused to give it...she said herself is clue of what she wears(prob XL)...i know it cant be the case... what do you advise me in this case? what is the best way to know her vital stats & suggest me some best brands i could gift her.
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Are you completely out of your mind?!
If you are meeting a girl for the first time on Valentine's day (or around that date, obviously) and want to present her with a nice gift then lingerie is NOT a good idea. If you give her lingerie then you're telling her, "I only want to have sex with you." Giving her lingerie on your first meeting is a very, very big insult.
Now, if you like the girl in such a way that you would like to date her or marry her eventually then you need to think of a gift that shows you care--not that you have an erection for her. No girl likes to be presented with a gift that says, "You're just sex to me!" A girl wants a gift that says, "You are special to me!"
Women like to get flowers and chocolates on Valentine's day. The prettiest flowers and the most expensive chocolates. We like to get balloons and our favorite cute stuffed animals. We like thoughtful, romantic ideas like candlelit dinners, with wine and our favorite desert. We like tasteful jewelry (but only give a ring if you want marriage so you don't make the wrong impression). Perfume can even be an acceptable gift if it smells good and you both like it. Lingerie is NOT something we are looking for on Valentine's Day.
Seriously, if you're going to give her lingerie then don't expect much from the girl. If she accepts the lingerie then she has probably slept with many guys and is open about sex. Otherwise, she will be offended (I know I would)!
Personally, if I was the girl and I was going to meet this guy I talked with online for the first time and he presented me with lingerie I would spit on his face and leave, never to be heard from again by him.
Lingerie is NOT acceptable as a gift in this scenerio. If you were married then it might be alright. If you two had been dating and having sex regularly then it might be an alright idea. Giving lingerie at this point is a huge insult and you'll be lucky if she doesn't take your head off. Her not giving you her measurements if her way of saying, "Please do not buy me clothing or something like that for Valentine's Day...please give me gifts of love..." When people suggest lingerie for Valentine's Day it is to people who have already been having sex regularly/married couples--not people who are just meeting!
Valentine's gifts are suppose to show that you care about the girl, not that you want to have sex with her. Re-think your idea.
If you have any more questions please feel free to ask me! :)
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