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my boyfriend and my dad...meeting!
okay soo me and my bf see eachother every two weeks if i'm lucky.. and there is four weeks in a month so i see him about twice a month.. well i want to see him more... like when i'm at my dads house on everyother weekend... { thats why i can't see him on those weekends}. my dad is really over protective.. he yelled at my ex who at the time we had been dating for about two months.. for us holding hands.. just only that! well my dad found out that my current boyfriend went on our first date to the movies.. he freaked! (my little brother told) well i wanted my dad to eventually meet him.. but thats ruined because when my dad has an opinion about someone it doesn't change! and at that time when i went to the movies with him.. it really wasnt supposed to be a date.. it was as friends.. but it turned into one.. how do i turn things around with my dad... he is one of those dads who have to be " the king" and thinks that he is " royalty" and he thinks that to make people listen you have to.. scare them... well.. yeah.. my dad is scary.. alot.. and well help!!
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Have your mother talk to him or lay into him as the case may be. You both need to point out to him that it's a fact of life that you need to be dating boys. It's normal for a young girl and that she feels you are ready and dating the right person.
As long as he can see rather than be told you are mature and responsible that's fine. Holding hands is childs play you ought to point out people your age have gotten pregnant, done all sorts of stuff neither you nor him are interested in at your age.
Have him meet your boyfriend on your terms. Have his family invite you and your father over and even your mom. Once he sees that everything is fine with him and his parents he'll loosen the reigns.
Have your mother tell dad that he needs to respect your space, choices and even if he doesn't like it boyfriends. And above all about the yelling etc. to lay off and show the same respect to him.
You could also get his mother or father to bitch to him by phone about how he treated so and so or this boy before and how they like your daughter but expect more from your father when he's a guest in the house.
He doesn't have to like your boyfriends and you don't have to tolerate how he thinks. He's trying to protect you but he needs to let you go or you'll never grow up. Maybe he feels he's lost you already to your mom through the divorce and doesn't want to let go of you emotionally.
Talk to him about that and what's bothering him when it comes to you. It's not about boys-it's about you and him. Trust me on that. The boy is just another thing he thinks tears you from him.
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