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complicated situation..
16/f
hi okay. so this is kinda long, sorry. theres this guy i like but its a pretty complicated situation. his best friend liked me for a really long time. and he keeps like getting in the way. but hes not the only problem. okay so i met this guy a few months ago. and i pretty much started liking him right when i met him. we hung out with his group of friends a lot because my best friend liked one of his friends and it was just convenient. but anyways one day we were talking and he told me that he started liking me when we first met and then i told him i felt the same way. so we like kept hanging out and stuff and figuring out if we still liked each other. anyways, we ended up going out. he asked me out right before winter break though.. and we both were going away so we didnt see each other for like a week and a half after he asked me out. during that time me and my ex started talking a little again.. hes an even longer story but we were really close, in love with each other, we liked each other for like 3 years, best frineds, etc. but yeah he distracted me from my relationship with this other guy. so basically i never really showed my boyfriend i cared about him because i was hung up on this other guy. he noticed that i wasnt showing that i cared and told me i needed to, but i couldnt do that to him while i still had feelings for another guy. so we ended up breaking up. during this time his best friend had also been complaining to my friends about how he regretted telling his friend he could go out with me, it hurt him everyday, etc. so that was another part of the reason too. but after i broke up with my boyfriend he apparently still liked me, but he acted like he didnt. and for some reason that really frusterated me.. because i still liked him but he acted like he didnt care at all. and he knew that i liked it when guys did that because it kept me interested because not to sound cocky or anything but usually its pretty easy for me to get the guy that i like. so i like a challenge. and when guys dont show me they like me i see that as a challenge. it just pisses me off so much and it makes me like them so much more. anyways, my situation now is that i need to show him i care more.. im trying but he like puts so much pressure on me to do it. he tells me hes like attracted to me but not the way i act. i think were both just used to being the one in the relationship that has the other person care so much more about them.. or at least like show it more. i have like trouble showing people i care about them sometimes. i think its just because im a more closed off person. anyways, im getting to my main problem sorry. on monday i was at his best friends house with him and my other friend. we ended up like playing truth or dare and me and my friend both hooked up with both of them. bad move, i know. i wasnt thinking at the time. then yesterday i hung out with him and his best friend. i was at his best friends house before he came though, and everything was fine. the only problem is that his best friend is like really touchy and like tries to hold my hand and cuddle with me and stuff, and i let him. another stupid move i know. but its not that the guy i like really cares about that. the problem is that his best friend thinks that i do that to make the guy i like jealous, which is not true at all. anyways, the guy i like got there and we were like cuddling or whatever and his friend ended up getting really mad at me after. people tell me his best friend doesnt like me anymore, but he asked me to hook up again and last night he asked me why i didnt like him.. like what was wrong with him. i really feel like he still has feelings for me. i know i need to tell him that he doesnt have a chance because i feel like ive been leading him to think that he might. i really like his friend now but i dont want to come between them. the guy i like is getting frusterated with me because his best friend is mad at me and because apparently im 'hard to deal with' and dont show that i care. what should i do?
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Tell him exactly what you said.. that you are kind of closed off and have a hard time showing your feelings and your doing everything you can and will keep trying because you like him. Honesty is the key in a relationship. He has to meet you half way as well so tell him that. Also, you need to stop hooking up with his best friend. Just the fact that the one you like is letting you guys do that and playing those games and not saying anything really is weird, thats not a good base to a relationship. The best friend should know not to go after his bffls girl. What is that about. And isnt the best friend your friends boyfriend, everything with the best friend just needs to end and you need to tell him that you like him as a friend, there is nothing wrong with him but you like his friend and you both need to know when your crossing the friendship line.
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