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I Need some Godly Advice to help my Boyfriend out.
Okay I am Only 14 years old...and my boyfriend Has been dealing alot with depression like he wants to kill himself and right now he is in a Mental Hospital and i keep telling him that that's not a way out and im a christian and i dont really know what to tell him i always tell him that if he did commited suicide that he would go to hell and that he was put here on Earth for a reason I just need more advice PLEASE HELP!
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it is sad that you are so young and having to deal with this. You are on the right track telling him that he was put on this earth for a reason- i believe that is true for everyone! However, i wouldn't use the scare tactic that you'll go to hell. Some people can't help the way they think - this is the human side of us. We'd like to believe that the spirit or soul side of us would take over and "save" us when we need it- but it doesn't always work. My advice is to just BE there for him. he needs a friend right now more than a "girlfriend". he needs to know that it will be ok no matter what he's going thru it will ALWAYS get better! Believe me i'm 28 and i've had a rough childhood- I KNOW it will get better. You might try asking him if you can pray with him or even pray for him while you are visiting him. Suicide is a very selfish thing to do and many people don't see it that way - but consider this- when you commit suicide you are only appeasing yourself and YOU don't want to have to DEAL with things anymore so YOU are ending it! he may not realize this is the case; dont' call him selfish, just try and make him realize that he is not alone and he does have friends, family and jesus that care about him very much! when you commit suicide- you are only hurting your friends and family even more- they will have the constant questions- did i have anything to do with it? did i cause it? was there something i could have done? why did he do this? i can't believe he did this he was so loved! in addition- getting thru whatever he is going thru- will definately make him and you and your relationship stronger even if it ends in friendship- that's ok because you are there for eachother and that's the most important thing!
I hope this helps!! Please remember even though you feel older you are only 14 you have a very long life ahead of you as does he!
Please talk to your parents/family member or friends about this situation- someone you can trust and are close to=- you are gonna need support.
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