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guy troubles
16/f this is kinda long sorry.
I have been hangin out wi these guys and Im starting to like one of them but theres a problem: the girl that broke up wi him about a month ago is talkin to him a lot now n they hang out. Hes told me he wants to move on but says its so hard bc he still likes her. He says he thinks she likes him again too. He was tellin me some stuff n me my friend and my older sister think he's getting used. This was before I ever even thought i would end up liking him. But now they are talkin all the time and hangin out a lot more. They both have the same profile picture up now of them together and she left him a comment sayin how she was sorry they didnt get to hang out last weekend and that they are for sure hangin out this weekend...so now im thinkin that maybe she really does like him agian.....but me n him have also been hangin out a lot too though. And during that time he sends me mixed messages bc sometimes me n my friend think he might be into me bc he acts like it and we flirt all the time but then a little later I will ask what hes doin tomorrow n he says idk i might be hangin out wi *wendi (the girl who broke up wi him but now they talk)...I dont know what to think and do. every time I start to like somebody he goes for this other girl or something. Im getting tired of it and I dont move from guy to guy very fast so its really hard for me. Im starting to really like him and I know im just going to get hurt. how come every time I like someone they go for someone else?! and why is it so hard?! but my real question is should I try to get over it bc he doesnt like me or should I let whats gonna happen happen or do I try to win him over?!? please help!
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I think he is still to hung up on his
ex for you to even try to get him to
like you. A guy isn't going to give you
the attention you deserve if he is still
thinking about the ex. I wouldn't think
seriously about a relationship with a guy
unless he is well over an ex.
Dating and finding the right guy is hard.
I suggest you find someone who hasn't a
girlfriend or isn't just broke up from
having one. Get to know him as a friend,
and then if you find yourself attracted,
ask him out before he can find another!
I do think it is best to just try to get
over this guy. He just isn't ready for
anyone else right now. You don't want to
be the rebound girl anyway. Those
relationships usually don't last long.
Good luck & hang in there. There is a
guy out there waiting for you!
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Hey there.
I don't personally think that he's a bad guy. i think that he's actually confussed.
obviously when *wendi* dumped him, he was hurt and upset, and guys (just like women) have feelings too. So even though they might not show it or talk about it as much, but there is still that down time when he still feels that like for her.. a month isn't that long, i'm sure he was trying to move on and maybe he does have feelings for you because he intended to get wendi out of life. I believe the real problem lies with her. i don't think she actually wants to be with him, i think she just can't stand the sight of him moving on with his life and possibily moving on to someone new.
I don't think that you are the problem, you like someone, not knowing that they are into someone else or infact their history. so don't be so harsh on yourself! As you are getting older aswell, you'll start to meet guys that will give you the same back as you give them. Just stick to who you are... remember the saying... what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger? EVERY heartbreak gradually gets easier to deal with, the first is always the hardest.
I think your next move should be asking him what exactly is happening with Wendi, if he insists on nothing, then explain to him that you have feelings for him and that you do want something more than just friendship. If he acts all funny about it and can't give you a straight answer, then don't push it, obviously it's gonna hurt but calmly just reasurre him that you care about him enough for him to make his own decision, and if he wants a chance with you then take it soon because you are NOT going to sit around and wait for him. Let him know your worth girl!
But one thing that you can't do is change the way he feels forcefully or blackmailing (not saying that you will do that). If he decides to be with little miss tryhard, then let him, because you are more valuable than being second to any other women!
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