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Just being me
15/f
Alright, well lately i have realized i don't know who i am anymore. I mean all my friends have really big influences on me. I have been around 2 of the same friends for three years now because they are my besties. But, i have realized that i am starting to act like them. When people ask me questions, i realize i would answer the question how my best friend would answer it. That's just what happens automatically. I don't know what I like anymore, i like what my friends like. I find myself talking exactly how they would. I just don't know how to stop it. It's just happens. I have tried to get out of it. It's not helping though. I have been around them so much it just happens. I am not going to quit hanging around them because they are my best friends in the whole world and i love them to death. I am on break for 2 weeks so that 2 weeks without them but i don't know what to do when i go back to school. Please help.
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Taking on the habits of your close friends is natural--we all do it, but some more than others. In my group of friends, we often have strange phrases that it takes a while to figure out who it even originated from. As long as your friends are forcing or manipulating you into acting a certain way, realize that your friends enhance who you are, not threaten you. A large part of our identities is who we choose to be friends with, so it's natural that our friends have such a large influence on us.
It may help you to sit down and figure out how you are different from your friends. Make a list of attributes that make you different from your friends. Start with something little, maybe like a food that you like and they don't or something. When you guys get back together, you can even ask them to contribute. They may notice things about you that you didn't even think of. Hopefully you'll come to see that you are your own person, even if that person is influenced by your friends. As long as you have good friends, that can be a good thing!
Good luck and much love!
~TD
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