Question Posted Saturday December 20 2008, 11:24 pm
hi, so I'm freaking out here. Do you have a boyfriend? Because if you do, have you ever said the "L" word to him? Like what have you guys done? because I don't know what my boyfriend expects from me ... I'd just liek to know. any informatrion is helpful, even if you don't have a boyfriend, or did ...
Hi, Im so glad you inboxed me! My boyfriend and I have been going out for 8 months. After we have phone conversations he does say I love you, and I say it back. The first time he said it to me I was very shocked and didnt know what to say, because I didn't love him, I just liked him. I realize that there are two types of saying the "L" word, one where you want somebody to know that you like them alot and care about them (the relationship im in right now,) and one where when you say it to the other person, you really really truely mean it with all your heart, and say it with a kind of passion (for engaged or married couples, or people that know they are destined for each other.)
But everyone forms their own oppinions, and I just want to let you know that you should ONLY do or say what is comfortable to YOU. If you are not comfortable with something, tell your boyfriend in a gentle way, but stick to your word; if he accepts that then he is a caring boyfriend who will understand you and take it slow. If he makes a huge ordeal about the situation, try calmly explaining to him that you are sorry, but you are just not comfortable yet.
For how much your boyfriend expects from you, dont expect too much, but expect he will pay for you for example: when you go to the movies, he will buy the ticket and the food. I always think its nice to share the cost (I dont want to feel like a ragdoll that cant pay for themself ahaha) so I will buy our food and he gets the ticket. I had talked to one of my guy friends, and they agree that its nice to have a girl pay occasionally, but they still want to feel "manly" :-)
Did I answer everything you wanted to know about? Im sorry this answer was so long! Feel free to talk to me anytime and/or about anything specific. Have a happy holiday!
thanks for the inbox again :-) [ xosodapopx3's advice column | Ask xosodapopx3 A Question ]
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