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why do some boys act matture and some boys act immature?
i am asking this question because my boyfriend acts like a complete ass and hes 16 and i am 17 but hes going to be 17 this coming up month. but any ways he just acts like he doesnt care about me but then again i know he does. but it seems like he doesnt anymore can you tell me why??
my age is 17 and i am a female from upstate ny
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some guys are just asses. and almost all of teenage boys act differently around their friends. since girls mature a lot faster and earlier than boys, we think they act immature all the time. and really, they do!
you cant really do anything about it except talk to him. you guys should have a level of understanding and communication. if he is a jerk to you, theres no question about it: dump his ass. how can you be totally sure he cares about you if he acts like he doesnt?
the thing of it is, guys act like complete asses until they are out of college, mostly. some of them even act out and immaturely through they're adult years. the ones that settle down with a family usually know the time for jokes and cussing and beer and parties is OVER. some guys never come to learn this and act out in front of their children, making their kids act like asses to their girlfriends when they're older.
i'm sorry i cant help you out, try talking to him. and if hes still a douche, just dump him and find someone that'll treat you right. every woman deserves love and emotional acception. from what you said, hes not giving you either. you're too old to be dating a child. go find yourself a man that you'll want to spend your life with. :) this guy isn't the one, im sorry.
i hope i helped you a little. :) good luck.
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Some boys are mature and some are immature because people have different personality types and maturity rates. A boy that's thirteen can be more mature than a guy that's 20. Different people just act different ways.
As far as why your boyfriend is acting like he doesn't like you, there could be a lot of reasons. Does he act like he doesn't like you when you're in public or with his friends? If so, he might just be embarrassed to show affection towards you while he's with people.
You should talk to your boyfriend and tell him how you're feeling. Ask him why he's acting the way he's acting. He can probably offer some insight into why he's doing what he's doing and how he's feeling at this point in your relationship.
If he's too immature to even talk about this subject or try to help you understand what's going on, you should consider a breakup. You might be more mature than him at this point. If he's not ready for a committed, serious relationship and you are, you're not on the same page and your relationship probably won't last.
It takes two people to have a good relationship. If your boyfriend's not going to grow up and do his part, he's not the guy for you. Don't expect him to change overnight. Just let him know how you're feeling and what you feel would make your relationship better.
Try not to approach him with direct blame. Don't say things like, "You act like a complete ass. You're so immature because..." No matter what you say after that, he's not going to be listening. He's just going to tune you out and get defensive.
Instead, talk to him in private and say something along the lines of, "You've been acting (such and such way) lately and it's really hurting my feelings. I wish you could understand my point of view." And just continue your conversation from there.
Darby(:
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