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i fell for my best friend and he lives really far away..
okay so i am 14/f
i have this friend who lives far away and he is older...
he has been my best friend since about three years ago.. we did some web dating since i dont see him..but i ended it because it hurt to much..
but now i really like him..more than a friend..
he is always there even though he really isnt there by me. he listens to me and makes me laugh. he calls me cutie, adorable, baby...
we say i love you and i really do love him..
*there are different types of love*
but i really care about him..some people say that distance pulls people together. and i believe it..
but what do i do?
i think i should wait until i am out of school to see him again because my mother doesnt like him because he is older. this is a guy i could truely wait for. he is means soo much to me. he has helped me so much through my trouble. i really love this guy. i kind of always have, now i am admitting it..
all opinions would be a huge help!
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So he was your best friend for about 3 years and then he moved away?..or.. did you find him on online and this has been going on for 3 years? I'll go on the assumption that this guy moved and now your relationship can only be over a non-physical ordeal. (telephone, internet,all that jazz)
I must say, personally, no. Age does not matter. People have many different ways for connecting with one another and all that age has to offer, is maturity, responsibility, wisdom, and an extension of life experiences. Just like the one you're going through. So don't worry about your mom, she has her opinion and has her way of looking at things,especially since she is.. your mother-
But, at the age of 14, it does put a gap in things if you say.. this guy is above lets say 20.
14 is very young. I just turned 20. I would say you'll meet A LOT of people and A LOT of guys in your life. Opinions, opinions? yes, there are different types of love. I hope you know which one you fall under.. or better yet- no, don't label it.. it simply is.. just that, a feeling or an understanding between two people-so why worry? But people can be very foolish and blind when it comes to love. Things you don't see, things you may not want to see. Theres no way of explaining or helping you in this matter- its better for you to live through it and learn from it. But to make sure you aren't hurt from it, my advice?
What do you do? It doesn't seem like your having any problems, unless you really want to see him and be really with him- but you already know that answer because its that's simple, be with him. After school? Middle school I'm guessing (And i really hope this guy isn't so much older than you, I don't know him but the typical response is that he has other reasons, but okay BACK TO HAPPY!) then take a trip, maybe with your mom to go visit him and spend some time. And you're saying you always have loved him because well, you can't imagine not being in love with him, maybe you can't remember when you didn't know he existed and therefore didn't love him, he may be the fabricated(less than better word to use here) person you've always had in mind, and maybe you can't imagine being with anyone else. But that's all it is - a perspective. You see it as love. And wALLA , so it is! It's great that he has helped you, and i don't want to pry for more details, so whatever this relationship is, be it love- be happy. DO things for your own self.
OH! umm about waiting. I have gone through this type of huh how shall I say- type of sensation? OR magical idea of waiting.
Sorry- But Do not wait. Or at least, do not have the "Mindset" of waiting. It doesn't do anything. You will only be locking yourself into this position of never growing- for that is impossible. Things will always change. They come and go, no matter how long you wait. And things DO CHANGE. But what are you waiting for? To be with him? you answered that question already, To marry him? That idea must sound magical indeed, because its the idea of locking (thats a harsh word, wow.) The idea of binding, no.. huh being with, thats easier and more flexible. Being with him.
I cannot say anymore, theres just too much more to talk about so i hope whatever this "opinion" has meant, that it has helped in any small way it could. I hope for all the best and you are forever lucky (a fictitious word, that has no validity to it, but i shall use it) to find "love" so early.
Any type is beautiful and you are beautiful for finding it, it makes us all better people for it. Because we are not who loves you, but for who we love. I think thats a quote somewhere.
Be good.
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