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bad attitude
We've been together for about a year and a half and have had problems since the sixth month in. Lately, it seems that i'm the problem. I feel like if i'm always upset at him about something, and I become very hostile and snappy at him, usually for very minor reasons, sometimes even for no reason. I get upset too easily. The other day he even asked why I was being so hostile towards him, and was wondering if he did anything wrong.
My behavior bothers me, because it starts other problems between us for no reason, it's like I go picking fights with him for no reason.
He's so sweet most of the time... I admit, sometimes I feel as though he doesn't give me enough attention, but later on I feel like it's all in my head, because he comes over all the time, and on the days he's too busy to see me, he calls and we talk for a while and he tells me all about his day and everything... Like I said, he's so sweet, and I hate myself for being so mean to him.
It's easy to say, OKAY JUST STOP ACTING THIS WAY... And I would if I catch myself in the act, but I usually realize it when it's too late (after a fight or whatever), then afterward I analyze the situation and realize that it's all my fault.
I want to stop this, it's annoying and I sense that he's starting to get sick of it too, but I don't want to lose him, I love him so much, i've never known anyone as great as him.
Any advice on how to stop this?
20/f
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First, you answered your own question in a way. You said that you want more attention.
Him calling you all the time and you seeing him often may not be enough attention for you or it may not be the kind you want. You have to first try your hardest to know when to pick your battles with him. Think "is what I am about to say to him worth an argument?"
Another reason you might be acting like this is maybe you feel that you are not worth a great guy. In the last paragraph, you said "i've never known anyone as great as him". Maybe up until this guy everyone else you have been with have sort of let you down. Since those people have let you down, maybe you are used to arguing with them. If this is so, try to understand that he is not any of these people. You owe it to him and you owe it to yourself to stop sabotaging your relationship.
If he is as great of a guy as you say, the next time you feel like picking a small argument, think is it worth. Before you pick these fights think about all the wonderful things that he is to you. Think about how much of an amazing guy he is.
Also think about yourself, honey you deserve a great relationship. Always remember that you are a smart and intelligent young woman, who deserves the best. Don't throw it away, make what you have work.
Do you know what they say about a man who would stay in a relationship with a girl who picks fights with him? "He must really Love her"
Hope that this helps good luck.
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