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Ive lost the only guy i ever really loved
I have been dating my boyfriend for nearly 8 months now and i know its not long but we have been through so much together and i love him so much. He can be jealous especially when he has had a drink. I used to run nightclubs for a living but gave it up so i could spend more time with him and so that it would help his jealously. we recently had an argument and he got very agressive and started punching walls and stuff. He even punched me in the leg and threw me off the sofa. Ive never seen him like this before and it scared me. The problem is i love him so much and i dont want to loose him, the only thing stopping myself is my pride. I always said i would never let myself get into a situation with a guy when he rules me, yet thats what im in. I know deep down i should just walk away but my heart wants him back. Am i stypid?
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You're not stupid, you're confused about what love means.
Do you want to know how to help someone with their jealousy? By not tolerating it and walking away from them if it's too much for you. The way you make a person's jealousy worse (on you too) is by accommodating it and validating it by changing your behaviour.
What is going to happen now is he going to start hitting your more regularly because he knows if he does you are not going to leave him.
He's got you convinced you're in love with him and going to "lose" him, when in fact his violence should cause him to lose you.
You need to ignore your heart on this one because it's being clouded by abuse. Your brain is what you need to listen to, and your gut instincts, both of which are not so far gone yet. They're telling you to get away and you should listen.
Do you want to marry a man who hits you? Do you want the father of your children to hit you in front of your kids? Is this the future you want? Because it's the future you're signing up for by staying with him.
Tell your girl friends and your parents what has happened in your relationship so that you can see their reactions. When they're horrified and want you to leave, hopefully you will get the courage.
Beware, his next step, if he hasn't done this already, is going to be to try and prevent you or discourage you from seeing your friends and family. DO NOT let this happen.
Get out now while you still have a chance. This happens to a lot of women. Don't be ashamed to get help. Please don't become a horrible statistic of women who stay with their abusers.
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