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can he really be TOO nice?
Ok, so i have been going out for this guy for almost 2 months.. isnt really that long but heres my problem my best friend and my best friends boyfriend say my bf is tooo nice to be a good guy. At first i just ignored what they said but then i really thought about it and like he will text me saying i love you and your soo awsome and other really nice things 5 or more times a day and he pays for me if we go anywhere. I think he might just really like me or hes just a gentalman but im not really sure. A couple weeks ago i saw him hanging out in our school court yard with this slutty girl.. could he be cheating on me and sucking up for it?
or am i just paranoid? so i guess my question is, do you think hes just a gentalman? or should i listen to my bestfriend and his bf and break up before i get hurt?
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Yes, I've known men who are 'too nice'.
They use their niceness either as a cover for their deep insecurities or as a way to manipulate and control the relationship.
When they are being 'too nice' you get the feeling that they are either:
Wondering why anyone would ever want to be with them and trying to spoil your rotten so you don't leave.
OR slowing start demanding and expecting you do things you are uncomfortable with or behaving in ways that weird you out, but you can't say anything without feeling guilty, because they are just so damn NICE to you, so you ignore your unhappiness and blame yourself.
THAT is what you need to watch out for: Manipulation and Total lack of self confidence.
Having either of those kinds of boyfriends is no fun at all. Those types of men, or women, should be avoided like the plague.
With every relationship you ever get into, you run the risk of being hurt. If you feel like this guy is too much of a risk, go ahead and dump him. But don’t dump him because he is too ‘nice’, dump him because you just aren’t that into him, or because he creeps you out. Those are kinds of things that let you know it’s not worth it, not the opinions of others.
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