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surgery and halloween party! :/
im having a party at my house on Halloween and i just had surgery yesterday to have skin cancer deeply removed, im in a lot a pain and on painkillers, but the thing is u can see my ribs and its like a 3 inch scar under my arm over my breast n on my ribs, and in the surgery I was conscious and never went numb now it hurts even more to move. Halloween is my favorite day of the year and I love to party so id probably be moving around a lot, what should I do it hurts so bad to breath without painkiller and with them it makes me very sleepy. Wich Im bipolar with extreme negative ocd so everyone already thinks im a freak but they say im a loveable freak but I make a joke over it, is that bad?
I just came to a brand new school with no one I knew, n I made 3 best friends n only they know that I had surgery, their pretty much gona take over the party n be in charge so I don’t have to worry about that, but its going to hurt so bad if I even dance. Is there any games or stuff we can do that I can also do or any advice at all about my whole situation? I don’t wana tell anyone else I had cancer and had surgery because I don’t want them to feel sorry for me, im only 14 and female
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First, hopefully you have an adult (your mom or dad, preferably) so they know the situation with you. With them you'll be able to "cover" being gone here and there in the party, otherwise your guests are going to start going, "HEY! Where did (you) go off to?!" YOU are throwing the party so people expect to see YOU around a lot.
Have your friends set things up. The less you move, the better off you're going to be. See if you can get them, paired with your parents, to decorate and set out the food/drink.
Next, do not go throughout the party in pain. If something hurts then stop doing it. If someone questions why you're not dancing a lot just say, "I'm just not feeling too well." You don't have to explain anything to them, as they will probably assume you're coming down with the flu (flu season).
This also covers why you might be absent to tend to bandages and stuff. If someone says, "Hey, I haven't seen you around the party much..." just respond with the same, "Yeah, I'm not feeling too well tonight...it's a bummer!" They'll understand--you are only human and humans get sick.
Take your medication if you're not feeling good. If you're in a lot of pain and need it then take it. Have your parents tell party guests that you're ill and went to rest but the party would go as planned.
Try not to overdo it. The last thing you need is ripping something open and bleeding down your top in front of all your friends. Just relax and play it cool. You're just sick tonight ;) that's all. No need to go into detail or explain the situation. It's your business and it should stay that way if that's how you want it.
Make sure to thank people for coming to your party in the beginning in case you won't be up when it ends. Remember to thank friends for helping out too!
The rule is:
Do not overdo it.
It's only one party and there will be others. You'll have another party next Halloween too maybe? No need to stress yourself out or hurt yourself. If you don't feel up to it, don't dance hard. Don't run around. Don't stretch for high things or raise your arms. Don't do anything your body tells you, "NO!" about. If you feel pain that's your body's way of telling you that you need to stop. Just listen to your body tonight.
Things will be just fine.
Let the three friends that know about your surgery know that you'll be a little down physically tonight and you'll need their help extra much.
Let your parents know your concerns so they can help cover for you.
Relax.
Have fun.
If you have any more questions, feel free to ask me! :)
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