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i have a terrible problem
17/f
me and this guy who is also my best friend have liked each other on and off for the past 5 years but he's had this complicated and rediculous relationship thats been on and off so i was afraid to get involved with him and then have him go back to this girl who he broke up with nine times. well he finally broke up with her for good. their parents refuse to let them date anymore because now they've broken up ten times.
its been a week since the break up.
now is our time. i've slept at his house before but never when he was single. we always joke about sex and making out so when i slept over at his house this past weekend i was nervous about what he'd want to do. i thought he'd at least try to kiss me but since then i've found out that he was hesitant to do anything because he respects me so much he didn't want to do anything unless i said i wanted to do it.
personally...i dont think its romantic when you talk about kissing before actually doing it. i like it to be spontaneous. but we talked about it and then he kissed me...and somehow i missed. then he says we're going to try it again so we kissed 3 more times. three times that seemed pretty damn good to me but hes "not counting it" because it lacked passion and "i just sat there". i was laying down and he was on top of me..there wasn't a whole lot of moving room.
so he said the rest of the night he felt weird because it wasn't what he was expecting and then the next morning i didn't feel good because i have blood glucose problems and occationally just dont feel good so the next morning it was just really quiet. we didn't speak to each other until i had to go.
so that was that...next day (today) he drove me home from school. and we had a very long conversation about it. we drove around the block, stopped at random places...it took 40minutes to drive 8miles. i told him that as much as i appreciated his respect for me i would like it better if he just did what he wanted to do my exact words were "ya gotta just be a man and go for the gold!!" so he starts slowing the car down again and i ask what he was doing and he says "im gonna be a man...as soon as i find somewhere to pull over" so he found a spot to pull over, he unbuckled his seatbelt leaned over and kissed me. and then he kept leaning in futher and further...he was smooshing my face. so once again he said i wasn't putting anything into it..but how can i when hes smooshing my face in! and it was so rediculous i started laughing in the middle of it.
so basically we're just gonna keep doing this until we get it right but i dont know how to make this better!! eventually we're going to go out and this can't happen!
help me please. i have a feeling this is going to be a daily problem if i cant fix it.
oh by the way. the last boyfriend i had was 3years ago and i haven't kissed since so its kind of all new to me again.
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same as christina...but um seriously? its only been a week since the break up? doesnt he need space? if not go for it, but i just dont want you to become his rebound girl...best of luck.
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the question for me is what are you doing while he is kissing you? all you have to do is kiss him back...other things you can do while kissing him back is to touch the back of his neck while kissing him...touch his body....put your hand up his shirt and explore.if you want to, you can take it a step further and go down his pants! it will turn him on in a snap, and don't be shy.just do whatever you feel like doing to him....oh yeah...one good thing that can be yummy while kissing a guy, pop his lip kinda.pretend you are biting it, and then let go,and he will love you forevr lol......and everytime you guys make out, do something different, so that he runs back asking for more...don't throw it all out on him at once.....sometimes planning things can be really awkward...so try not to plan wen you are gonna kiss. its better not to plan, just do. even when he is not man enough u to do it, once in a while you should go for it and just blow him away....show him how you like it done!lol...but anyway. goodluck!i hope this helps.:)
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