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Dear, Sweet LiL Angel
I have a girlfriend, we've been together for a few weeks now, but she has already made it evident that she has secrets about her life that she is not comfortable with telling me. I was not too worried about them until her friends mother, (who she lives with) let me in on a big secret, but made me swear not to tell my girlfriend that I know. She told me last night because me and my girlfriend were fighting over sexual issues. The problem was, that I was kissing her, and touching her, and we were about to have sex, but all she wanted to do was kiss, and she was very reluctant to have sex, or touch me, but all she gave was a lot of far fetched excuses. This irritated me because this has been going on for the past week or so with her. After our fight, we still haven't truly made up, but I had time to talk 1 on 1 with her friends mother. I explained my situation, knowing that she is a very open person, and would have no problem offering her advice based on how we have talked about practically anything and everything since I have met the woman. But I did not expect what she was about to reveal to me by a long shot. We were sitting there in the living room just me and her, and she tells me that my girlfriend has some medical issues that she has been reluctant to tell me, and that might be the missing piece in this puzzle here. She then goes on to tell me that my girlfriend has heart issues, and explains them to me... I did not know how to feel about this, but it didn't seem life threatening, so I was still relaxed. Then she goes on to tell me that my girlfriend has Hepatitis C. This is a very serious condition; and I could be at a great risk of getting it from her. Since last night I have not been able to collect myself, and I've just been a wreck because now I feel like a jerk for pressuring her into sexual relations, when she was resisting, not because of me, but because she wanted to protect me, because she doesn't know if she can get me infected with the same dangerous disease. As far as I know, her knowledge on the disease is limited. Now I can't relax, because I want to tell her how sorry I am, and how I can't even explain how I feel about it, but on the same note I don't wanna blow her friend's mom's cover by saying how she revealed my girlfriends best kept secret. For this would hurt the relationship between myself and her friends mother, and she might not tell me any information ever again. I also feel upset towards my girlfriend for not telling me but I don't know what to do?!?
There's a whole bunch of emotion going on with me, I know I still love my girlfriend, but how do I handle this situation? Please help, the quicker the better..
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Be there for her. That's some hard stuff to go throw. I know you are a guy and have sexual desires but watch a movie with her and just hold her. she has to know 100 % inside of her head that if she told you that you wouldn't leave. obviously you arn't going to but its going to take a while since you guys have only been together a few weeks. Just Show her that you are there for her.. in the mean time. try google.com and search her condition see if you can find ways to have sexual intercourse while being safe. Good Luck.
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