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so a lover of mine told me she was going to kill herself
so a lover of mine told me she was going to kill herself, this was a week ago. and now her phone is off when trying to call, i have tried every way possible to get in contact with her. And i think she's done it. She lived in York and just.... i have no idea what to do. i've been seriously considering following suite, life just doesn't seem worth going on when the one person i have ever loved, kills themselves.
I can't sleep at night, i've even been sick. the idea that she is no longer here.
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i agree with the person below.
butt if you really love her,
dont go into full detail with the police.
telling them she wanted to kill herself could get her in serious trouble.
butt dont kill yourself.
your not even 100% sure she even did it anyways.
her phone might of coincidently broke.
or she might of lost the charger...
butt i hope everything turns out okay.
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If she lives in New York and you live in some other place, then you need to call the police ASAP and tell them you haven't heard from your friend in a week now and am very afraid that something has happened to her and could they please do a check. (they will have too- so don't think they want do it on your hunch) you don't have to tell them what you think has happened if you don't want too, however, if you do, it will probably get them over there a litte quicker. I'm so sorry your going through this right now. I would really advice the police thing. There's no reason for you to take your life regardless of what may or may not of happened, especially if it didn't happen. She might just be going through some depression right now and just doesn't feel like talking. -alot of people that go through despression will withdraw from everyone. You could try calling some of her friends if you know any, or any neighbors (If you know there names, you can look up there digits in the phone book) and see if they can please check on her. I hope she is ok.
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You need to go to her place instantly and see whether she's answering the door. Ask her neighbours if they've seen her and ask them to help you get inside because you're worried about her. It's vital to know that she's okay before taking any steps. Now, bear in mind that you think that she's done it, so please, please, please take every step possible to ensure what has happened.
In my column, I've got a metaphor at the very beginning, saying that life is a rollercoaster: full of the ups and downs and I believe that there is always a reason for everything. And I know that sometimes there doesn't seem to be a reason, but there is. I'm going to tell you a little story.
Last week, one of my peers attempted to take his own life...why? Because he loved somebody, but they didn't love him back. Thankfully, he was saved and now back at home. Silly reason isn't it? But not if you know what it's like to have felt true love for somebody and not have it returned, trust me, I've been there before.
And even now, I still try and find a reason to why he tried. And I think about the pain in which his family would go through if it had worked and what pain he would put his friends through and it always makes me wonder as to why kill yourself, when the true pain will be left with those left behind?
Imagine the pain which you'll be leaving with your family and friends if you do follow suite. It would be worse for them than for you, but the real question is: can you really do it?
Can you really find the strength within you to take all that is held dear to you, all the people that you've loved, all the things that you've seen, learnt and done in you life in one moment because of a broken heart? You've got to be a very strong person to do it.
I know that my friend did, but when he did it, he ran for help and that's what saved him in the end, his weakness to do it and to fulfill it. It sounds so simple on paper, but in real life, it's the hardest thing to do. So think about it and I hope to god that you don't do it, because it's just not something worth taking your life for.
I know that this last bit will sound cruel and unforgivable, but the only way to get over this is to grief, then move on. Otherwise, you won't be able to live your life. Think as to what she may've wanted you to do? Give up or keep on going?
This wasn't a lecture, a reminder as to what could happen as a result of it.
I hope this helps and I hope to god that you can pull yourself through this,
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