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help me with this guy.
First of all, I love your advice. I asked this question to everybody, but I wanted your individual opinion... just, since you are a guy, what would a girl have to do for you to really notice her?
Me and this guy I have a huge crush on are in our schools band together. We know eathothers names and say hi to eachother and we chat somtimes at band practice and competitions. The problem is, I dont know how do get any closer to him! Yesterday, I went out of my way to sit by him in the bleachers at our band competition, and I talked to him alot durring it, but never really got into any real conversation, just like little comments. I am not shy at all, but I really just cant think of anything to do to get his attention and get him thinking about me. He probably just thought it was a fluke that I sat next to him for all that time yesterday, if he even thought about it at all. I want to invite him to do somthing with my freinds, because he is sorta friends with some of the guys in my group, but my friends havn't done anything lately as a group that would be appropiate to ask him to come to. Another problem is, we only have one week left of band practices and competition... then its totally over for the year, and I dont even have any classes with him. So please help! I really really like him but only have one week to get him! Any ideas?
Oh yes, and I want to flirt with him, but I just dont want it to be too obvious, because you know how it is when you're with your friends and one of them is getting flirted with really hard, and as soon as the flirter leaves you all talk about it and discuss it with the person who was getting flirted with... you know what I mean? Like, I dont wnat to flirt with him alot and then as soon as I leave all his friends will turn to him and say "Woah! She was really trying hard to pick you up, huh?" So what are some really subtle ways that I can lure him in without making a scene?
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There is only one word I can say that may remotely help you:
Confidence.
If you don't have it, you won't be able to talk to him. If you don't have it, you won't be able to talk about yourself. If you don't have it, there's really no point in trying to flirt with him.
Here's some flirting tips I've given to other people:
1. Smile! If you're not smiling, chances are the guy won't be interested.
2. Don't always talk about yourself, let him talk about himself, too! Balance the conversation. Yes, conversations are a HUGE way to flirt more indirectly ;].
3. Think about what you do. Don't just blindly go around flirting with everyone. Some people don't want to flirt, and you can tell by their body language, facial expressions, etc.
4. Be nice. I can't tell you how many times I've seen girls be complete bitches. It's SO irritating. If you're not nice, then it isn't worth the effort. Guys don't like bitches.
5. BE YOURSELF! I know you said not to say this, but as the above question told you, if you aren't yourself- who are you going to be? You aren't being truthful with the guy if you're making up things about yourself or you're doing things you normally wouldn't do. The guy will get the wrong impression and may like something about you that isn't even a part of you.
6. HAVE FUN! If you aren't at least doing that, I don't know what to tell you ;]
Here's a question I've answered before that has a pretty long answer on how to start a conversation if that's what you're worried about. I won't copy it since it's too long, but I'll give you the link:
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Thanks for inboxing, and I'm flattered you like my advice ;]
--Jack
(16/m)
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