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should i break up with him?
i am a 17 year old girl. i go to boarding school in connecticut. ive known my boyfriend, j, for almost 4 years and we've been together for a few months. i really care about him as a friend and im attracted to him, but i dont think we are a good couple. we rarely get to hang out because were both really busy and i feel like we dont have that much fun when we do hang out. weve always had a lot of fun as friends so it seems strange. but i think if i broke up with him it would be completely out of the blue for him.
also, there is a guy, w, i have been hanging out with a little lately. i have a lot of fun with him and i feel like we are really compatible. i find myself thinking about him a lot. but, his best friend, c, is also one of my closest friends. c's friends always tell me that c is "in love" with me. he really doesnt like my current boyfriend and he was really upset when we got together. i dont know if w and i could ever be more than friends because he probably values his friendship more than any feelings he may or may not have for me.
soo my question is..should i break up with my boyfriend?
pros:
something could happen with w
c and i will be closer again
i would have more free time
cons:
his mom is my college advisor and has to write a letter of recommendation for me!!
he would be really upset and we may never be friends again
his friends would hate me
what do you think?
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this is a really hard situation, but it's similar with what i had to go through with my ex boyfriend. i would suggest that you do break up with your boyfriend because it really doesn't seem like your very happy right now. i was with my ex boyfriend for a year and i just wasn't the same after we started having problems. i no longer was the same girl who was always smiling who made everyone laugh and who could brighten anyone's day. i was the girl was not happy with what she had, i was the girl who couldn't even smile worth anything because i was staying with the one who i thought i loved, but just made things even worse for me. if you are having doubts i suggest you break it off with him. even though you have been friends for 4 years, tell him that you would just rather be friends because you feel that you had SO much more fun being friends and then you don't have to worry about the whole relationship thing. on the other hand i wouldn't exactly try to get with "w" right away because if you still want to be friends with the boy your with now you have to show respect to him and if you went out with someone new right away it really would break his heart even more. even though i really do miss my ex boyfriend, right now im the happiest i've EVER been because im living my life with the one's i need, who make me happy and those are my girls! just take some time, hang out with your girls and enjoy the single life. the longer you stay with your boyfriend now the harder it will be on him if you decide to break up. do what your heart tells you sweetie. you deserve the best and you deserve to be happy :) good luck and if you need any more advice let me know! ♥ LU
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