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cant have an orgasm with a guy
hey...I found you under columnists and thought you would be able to help me
this is a bit personal...
im 17 years old/female and have had a few boyfriends...with my last one, I was with him for a few months and he was the first guy i started doing sexual things with...
but my problem was...everytime he fingered me or performed oral sex it felt pretty good...but I couldnt have an orgasm
ive had MANY orgasms before while masterbating..
im talking to this guy now and we were making out the other night and i had thin swetpants on and he was rubbing me through them and it felt good and i got excited but i felt the same thing happening again like with my last boyfriend...it feels good but i cant get to that point
i dont know what it is!
sometimes i feel like it may be because my last boyfriend didnt have much experience...it was his first time doing stuff with a girl as well as mine with a guy and its easy to just give a blowjob and have a guy get off but for a girl its a little bit different when pleasuring her
besides the rubbing through the pants i havent done anything with this guy yet so im not 100 percent sure how he is but im 100 percent sure hes experienced and stuff
i dont know whats wrong with me though...with my last boyfriend i never even came CLOSE to having an orgasm and its not like he was THAT bad...
is it just me or is this normal for girls?
im nervous im never going to be able to with a guy...
also another question (sorry for the length!)
i cant give a guy a handjob!
with m y last boyfriend, i tried to but he said it hurt a little...
it wasnt like smooth when i tried to move up and down...it was like the skin was moving up and down and it just didnt work!
so i gave blowjobs all the time but theres gotta be a way to give handjobs...i mean people do it!
do people ALWAYS use lube when giving a hand job? or is there any way to do it without using it and im doing it wrong?
thanks so much!
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during sex all you have to do is get him to rub the outside of your clitoris.
guys like pleasuring girls that way, if that's what is going to help them get an orgasm.
i promise it'll work, especially if he rubs in your exact spot.
your clitoris is a woman's main orgasm point. just have him practice around helping to find out where it is that you are most stimulated at (around your clitoris) & have him rub... a lot.
giving a hj, is simple. just try to be easy & gentle. they are sensitive.
lube does help with the rubbing, but it's not necessary.
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