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Should we tell...
Ok, me and this guy are going out and theres another guy. He is my BF'S best guy friend, and my 2nd best friend (i don't like numbering friends, but in this case, thats how it is). We've all been a group for quite a few months, but me and my BF only recently started dating. This other guy, for a while, liked me, and I had a bit of a crush on him (nothing like how i feel about my BF, but, and I don't 'like' him in that way anymore). He knew I liked him, but we didn't go out. And my BF and I don't know how to tell him we're dating. We need to, and want to, but we're both scared of his reaction. Any ideas on how we should tell him?
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You know they say "three's a crowd". Someone almost always feels left out. If you all hang out in a group there's no way to hide this sort of thing. You need to tell him.
Secondly, the way the chips fell, you're with your BF and not this guy. He's cool and fun and friendly, so you enjoy being around him, but you're not interested in a romantic partnership with him. That's just how it is. It's none of his business who you're with.
A big mistake so many people make is assuming the Other Guy has some kind of claim just because he likes you. He doesn't. You are your own singular, independent person and if you didn't choose him, that should be the end of the deal for him. If he reacts badly, his jealousy is out of control and you should consider how much time you really wanna spend with this guy.
It's not your job to pander to or take care of his feelings or his relationship status. Don't apologize for being with your BF! Tell him and then stick by it.. say it gently but unimportantly like "By the way, ____ and I are dating now and we wanted to tell you before you heard it from someone else."
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