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long story... very dramatic
About six months ago, I went to this competition that a club of ours was having at school. There was a boy there, who I met from another state, and we decided that we were going to go out to dinner that night. He kept on begging for a kiss, but I really didn't want to give it to him. I was seeing someone at the time, however, this dinner wasn't exactly a date. It was the clubs who had gotten together. But, either way, he wanted me to kiss him, and i really did not want to. I thought that this is where the story would end. But, obviously, it did not stop there. We exchanged e-mails and kept writing back and forth to each other. I thought it was pretty cool, kind of like pen pals. Soon, the summer came, and I didn't hear so much from him, because he went to another country, etc. Anyway, my mother remembered his birthday. Don't ask me how, she just did. I could kill her! She told me she was going to send him a cake for his birthday. At first, I thought this was just a little cake saying happy birthday. I was like ok, because I didn't think that was a big deal and anyway, he lives alone in a boarding school, and I figured, he could use it to cheer up. But, my mother went a step beyond. Just a little too much! She ordered this custom-made rice-krispie cake with pictures of us from the competition. The loved it! From then on, he's assumed that I'm his girlfriend and has become really possessive. I can never tell him if another guy is calling me, or anything like that because he gets very angry. Well, thanks to my mother, again, we are going on a vacation with him this coming weekend. I don't mind the vacation so much, because God knows I really need it. But, I do not want to kiss this boy. My mother said that I better kiss him because he came all the way over here for a kiss, and she went through all this trouble, and paid so much money for the trip, and a kiss is not going to hurt. This having been said, let me just explain that I am madly in love with someone else and I don't want anything to stand in the way. I like this boy as a friend. I even think of him as my little brother, even though he's older than me. I can't see him like this. I can't kiss him! I can't kiss someone when my heart is in another place. It wouldn't be fair to me or to him, but I can't just tell him that at the beginning of the trip, because it is oing to ruin our vacation. He's been sending me texts saying "only __ more days till I can wetten my lips with yours." Yuck! I don't want to wetten my lips with anyone but the guy who I'm head over heals for, and that's just the way I am. There are people who can put up with just a peck if it's absolutely necessary, but I can't do it! I just can't! I need some help, please! I can't kiss him. He just turns me off so much. Sometimes, I see him on webcam, and he doesn't shave and I can't stand the thought of anybody who isn't the other guy to put their arms around me, or caress me. It really grosses me out, and I'd rather be alone than not be with the right person. I feel awful, but he's just not the right person. I just can't do this in a way that is mean, because we have already gone through all of this trouble, and he is so alone. Please help me!
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first of all, you need to talk to her mom. tell her how you feel about all of this. it is very rude and unneccessary that she's putting all this pressure on you to kiss him when you obviously don't have feelings like that for him AT ALL. haha this is like really frusterating me that she's trying to get you to kiss him. can't she see that you obviously don't want to?! grr. it's like bad enough that he's pressuring you, but her too?! wow. anyways, don't do anything you're not comfortable with. tell him your mom sent the cake and you just like him as a friend. it might hurt his feelings, but it's better than having to kiss him right? :)
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if he wants to kiss you, say you have a cold and you dont want him to get it and then be like,, your sweet n that but i thought we were m8s. and the reason i dont weant to kiss you was because i actually thought you had a gf! like i had a boyf.so.. i think that there is someone else out there 4 you and its not me.if your mum says anything tell her that your just not interested in him and he is being a little bit TOO lovy dovey and besides! you have a boyfriend anyway lol. so hope this helps??!! xx
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This sounds really tough and confusing. Okay I really can't even believe your mother is in on this. First you should talk to her about the whole situation. Make her realize how much you are in love with the other guy. The next thing to do is get rid of the boy. Okay yeah it's sweet when somebody is head over heels for you right? But he is just really obsessive. It's okay if you don't want to kiss him. It's your lips, your choice. You have the right to choose. Just tell him that you only want to be friends. Maybe you could introduce him to another girl so he could get over you faster. If you are in love with somebody else always go for him.
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It does sound like a really bad situation, and I wish I could give you a good idea but honestly I don't think theres a good way out of this. The only two options that come to mind would be to put it off as long as possible, right when he kisses you..stall and who cares if its obvious that you dont want to kiss him..maybe he'll get the picture and back off. And when you can't avoid it any longer, sit down with him and nicely explain to him what you just typed out..that this was all was a misunderstanding because of your mom.Option number 2 doesn't get much better but it would be to just tell him right at the start..it may ruin the vacation but then the only worry then will be to try to make the best out of it. Either way your just gonna have to come out and tell him the truth..after all you never did agree to going out with him or anything like that, and make sure you tell him that. Goodluck..I really hope I helped.
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