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jsut friends is all we'll ever be =/
so theres this guy i met over the summer through a friend. and hes basically like..the nicest guy ever. Like I just feel like he's really special & something different. hes very shy and doesnt really seem to express his feelings much which is kinda like how i used to be. So we've liked each other since probably July. We've seen each other probably 5 times between then and two weeks ago & we have talked basically every night thru texting and also on the weekends.
over the summer we actually met up at the beach because my friend invited him but didnt tell me (but she knew i liked him a lot). Him and i just had so much fun and we flirted ALOT. That basically made me attach to him
recently we met up at the book store about two fridays ago. we haven't really had the chance to text all the time like we used to (in the morning, during the day and at night) but we still spoke at night.
the day we hung out at the book store, things felt different. like my feelings werent as strong as they were before that time when i saw him at the beach. I figured it was because i hadnt seen him in a while (about a month) and because we havent really talked much because my mom didnt like me texting him all the time
so that night we were texting for a little bit and just joking around. the next day, i text him, i dont get a response. I knew he was working until around 4 but then i still hadnt received anything from him and he normally would say hi after he got out. so i sent him another message saying hi and didnt get a response until around 1030. he jsut starts telling me how he didnt feel the same that he used to like when we were at the beach and he doesnt know if he could see me as a gf or any of that and things just felt like we were friends hanging out at the bookstore.
so i was asking him what it was that changed that and he just said he doesnt know and so i was like ' well do you want to figure it out and see what went wrong or just forget it' and he said something a long the lines of wanting to just move on and work towards the future.
so i really want to be like..best friends with him (he doesnt go to my school btw, i go to an all girls high school ) and i dont really know how to ask. it seems like i always have to initiate a convo by texting him first and it just feels like he doesnt want to hang out with me. so i really dont know how to approach it or what to say.
Thanks so much!
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Ah, i know exactly what you're going through.
I would just text him, and be like,
"hey, sorry to bother you. i know we talked about going out, etc, and you said you just kinda wanted to to move on. but i was just wondering if we could still be friends?"
Because, first of all, you can't force anyone to be your best friend, you know? Secondly, from what it sounds like, i honestly wouldn't expect much from him right now. He sounds like he just wants to leave it be, but you could be the judge of that, because you've talked to him more than i have (obviously, haha, i don't even know him). But most importantly, start off with texting him, and see where that takes you.
If you need anything more, let me know!
good luck (:
kitty
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