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i am not sure
i believe in fate.....but i am not sure what's going on today.. lately i can't stop thinking about this guy who asked me out a while back... i mean we barely spoke or anything (i mean i saw him once and said hello and that was it and i guess i left an impression) i met him through my sister. she's really good friends with his other siblings... anyway so i said i wasnt sure and what not but he kept pursuing... i didn't have a reason why i didn't want to go with it it's just i was reluctant and needed more time to know him (we barely spoke and when we had the chance i froze up and didn't say a word!) so then about 4 months after that (when things went dead and i stopped hearing from him) he added me on facebook.... but here's the deal he added me almost a year a go and not one word has been said between us! what should i do? is there an opportunity here or am i just fantasizing??
i come from a culture where traditionally, your supposed to act, in a way, prudish... or sort of bashful and reticent.... but i am not sure if that's how i want to deal with him (especially if he's possibly the one! i am only that with my family)... i know he wants some culture in his girl but i don't think he wants a very conservative person... his sister and my sister are quite conservative and mine was pushing me to do the same ... which is kind of the reason i went along with her hard to get scheme... so i am not sure what to do... i keep thinking of the what ifs ... but i don't want to take the risk and screw things up by being daring and messaging him via facebook... i don't want to take the risk of him reading this wrong (as i want to show him that i really am just shy but am not conservative when it comes to family and their friends! and that i am looking for something serious not a joke!) in same time i don't want my sister (or his sister because she'll tell mine) to know what is going on... because she'll panic and put a strain on her friendship and my potential relationship....
i mean i am sure he's confused... with friend (which he could see through facebook!) i am rather open and silly and just myself... but with people that know me through my family, or with my family i am very very alert and cautious (reputation and demeanor is everything)
what should i do exactly!? someone please help i am new to all this!
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With most people, sending a message on facebok is a casual thing. people are also somewhat lose about they add to their friends list, but I believe that he added you hoping that you would say something to him. If he wasn't interested in talking to you at all he would not have added you. Since you are very cautious with family and others associated I can understand that you want to be careful what type of message you send. If you are intereested in something serious, you should try talking to him on the phone and eventually get to a point where the two of you are hanging out. Since it has been a while though, sending him a message on facebook is a good way to start. It won't be a face to face thing, so you can relax and be casual.See what he says back and you will probably feel better. Once the subject comes up you can just explain your situation to him. Playing hard to get is ok sometimes, but if it has been a year and you are obviously making no progress, its time to try something different. You don't need to completely throw away who you are, but find a happy medium.
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