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in response to your answer about "creepy ex-boyfriend"...
I appreciate your advice. Thankyou! The problem is- I miss talking to him too, you see, he and I were really close friends before we started dating and it ended pretty ugly... I think maybe partly because we were so comfortable with each other that we didn't care how much we hurt the other person because we thought we would be able to forgive ourselves for it- kind of like how you can be meaner to your closest friends and family because you know they will always be there and will forgive you.
That being said, I think it's important that we don't get back into a relationship. But I really miss having him there like we were before we dated and screwed it all up. What do I do?? I miss my best friend but I really don't want to risk starting another relationship with him, it hurts too much when it doesn't work and from the past, we've found out multiple times that it doesn't work. Suggestions?
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Hmm.
Thats a tough one. Separating out feelings of friendship from feelings of romance is difficult or nigh impossible for most people. Ive tried it before with little success.
To be honest, I don't speak to my exes for this reason. Friendship leads to hanging out, hanging out leads to cuddling, which an hour later leads back into sex and suddenly we're trying to figure things out again. The cycle repeats until one of us ends up hating the other one, or one of us breaks off all contact permanently.
This has happened to me like 4 times in my lifetime =/
The only way I can imagine something like that working is if both of you mutually do not WANT each other outside of pure friendship anymore. Rare, rare thing to happen. Beyond that, do the best you can, but two people who want each other and try not to... you're fighting human nature there. That rarely works.
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