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problems already???
Alright. I just got together with this guy form my work.
He is really a great guy, were just sooooo different! and i cant tell my parents cause i just know they would'nt accept him..just because.
but i have a problem beacuse he cares about me SOOOOOOO much...already and i just dont feel the same way i mean im trying to i really am, the feelings just are'nt there. but i do like him dont get me wrong. THeres just some little things that really bug me about him like the way he dresses...i know that sounds superficial. And something else...he's 19 and a virgin which is really cool but he wants to have sex with me so bad!!!!!! but i really dont want to rush into something like that, especially if im not sure how i feel about him yet.
but i just dont know
anyone been in this situation?????
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I actually have been in a few situations like that before. The best thing you can do is take your time. If the feelings are not there the way his are, you can't force yourself. You should take things slow and don't let him rush you. If you don't like the way he dresses don't feel like you are being superficial, someone's outward appearance is one of the initial forms of attraction.You are thinking right about the sex, you know that you still aren't exactly sure how you feel about him so now is not the right time to jump in the sac with him.I know it may seem a little strange but if you sleep with him before you are sure about the depth of your feelings for him, you may actually end up deciding that you don't like him if the sexual experience is not what you wanted. This would be through no fault of your own because you wanted to please him, but you could end up hurting him because he will mis-read that for you wanting him badly as well. When the feelings are not returned by you, he will be crushed thinking that you either used him or that his sexual performance was to blame. So, take things slow and always follow your instincts. Don't allow yourself to be pressured into feeling anything.Just let nature do what it does :)
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