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I HATE THAT I CANT GET OVER HIM


Question Posted Monday September 15 2008, 3:07 am

heyy kirsten, i know this is long but please answer if you can. im so lost any suggestion would be amazing.

the first boy ive ever loved, kissed, gone out with, all of that is still in my head. we started daitng 3 years ago (wer both 14 now) and hes been in my head ever sense. i know he feels the same way and its scary because no matter how many times we break up we aways go back to eachother. it feels like we were destined to be together. and ithink we might be eventually. but...



whenever we have a relationship it gets so serous that im scared to even talk to him. if i do, we flirt nonstop, make all of these plans, and im scared where ittle leade. ive never been able to really get over him, i get butterflys just looking at him and i know he feels the same way. but i dont want to lose a high school experience by being with him, it hurts to talk to him because i feel it getting more serous and stronger by the minuite, but it hurts not to becayse i miss him so much. and i see him in shcool everyday and he just makes me laugh and hes never broken up with me i always break up with him because i feel myself getting too attached and i get scared and run away. i think i might really love him even though i know its not likely at this age. i know i love the way he makes me feel but icant let myself accept it. and he says he dosent want a relationship now but i know i could talk him into it but im not sure whats best. do you think theres a way i could really get over him? not talking to him isnt really an option, it would just be really awkward. hes in my classes so i have to see him everyday. i know i could try to get over him, but im not sure how to get over him for good. the second he looks at me or texts me all is lost and i fall for him again. please help


thanks SO much!


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Additional info, added Monday September 15 2008, 3:14 am:
i can always get over him for a little bit but it never lasts. so i guess a second part of my question would be how to FULLY get over someone .

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kristen22 answered Monday September 15 2008, 11:22 am:
Sharing your first kiss with someone will always be a HUGE thing in every girl's life.. I still remember every detail of mine! BUT there's a difference in my first kiss and yours... You and this guy definately have a history. Even 3 years of a on again off again relationship is a pretty serious thing for someone yall's age. From what you've told me, it sounds like your scared to love him because of what might happen if you let yourself fall that deep. The only problem is, denying your feelings about him, isn't going to make them go away. The heart wants what the heart wants and believe it or not, you have very little control over that! :) I think you should try to have a serious talk with him about yall dating and maybe get back together and try to make it work this time. However, if you do want to cut ties and get over him, the only things you can do is involve yourself in new activities, hang out with your friends more, take up a new sport...but all these things are just things to help fill your time so you don't think about him as much. Even thou I wish there was, there is no magical words that can heal a broken heart or help you get over someone faster. The general time thou is 3 weeks of morning (being sad about not being together) for every 6 months you were together. So the getting over someone process usually takes a while. Our hearts for the most part make up our mind about who we are with because there so powerful. It really does sound to me like you do love him but for some reason just don't want to completley let him in your heart. Take some time for you to think about why you havent given your whole self to him in the past. Even thou your mind doesn't want you to love him, your heart....ALREADY DOES.

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