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I just really need to get over him
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I've liked this guy for who knows how long((ok maybe not that long...)).Well last year in 8th grade i told him what I felt about him he said that he didnt feel the same way for me.To just be friends but sadly we((I blame myself))left things awkward between us...
We then stopped talking to each other and hardly have said a word to each other since then.((Except for the frist day of high school))
I want to start all over and be friends with him but I still really like him & im scared that if I start being friends with him agian I will just keep liking him more & more.I want to get over him but its just soo hard!And its now more harder because lately I've seen him hang around with this girl who happens to have my name too((which I still find werid cause not many people have my name))
Now she is pretty but a little overweight((not to be mean...))She of course is the exact oppisite of me.She's girly,funny,smart,very social & she's not shy at all.Today,I saw her talking to him after school.I was in the bus when I saw both of them talking to each other.He was laughing,smiling something of him I have'nt seen all summer.While I saw them having a good time I just alomost cried seeing him like that.I thought why can't I make him laugh?Why are'nt I like her?I just started comparing myself to her and how ugly and stupid I was.Then I started blaming my self for saying my feelings to him.
I know I should'nt do that I actually did try to think about positive things about myself but they just did'nt stay there long enough...I just really want to get over him but its just so hard for me since he's the frist guy I ever liked.((Yup he's my frist crush))
All I'm asking is that how can I get over my frist crush?And how can I ignore those negative thoughts about myself whenever I see that other girl with him?
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Yikes. Well my first bit of advice seems kind of goofy but I recommend you try it. Think of an old favorite memory with him, and then one day just be like, "hey ____, you will never believe what happened yesterday, I saw a guy juggle 5 goldfish, just like you did that one day." (PS you don't even have to say something true, just say SOMETHING.) Then he will laugh, you will laugh, and you can start a normal conversation like "So how have you been doing?" or something like that. Next, once you are on a friend basis, you can start demolishing all your old feelings. Start by thinking "We had our run, lets give this new girl a shot" or "Wow, his new guy friend is mega hot!" anything to help you juggle the end of a crush and the beginning of a relationship. If none of this works, I am going to give you some advice I recently received; to get over a guy you are going to
1. cry
2. feel like crap (don't worry its normal"
3. move on, this is only your first crush, there are plenty more fish in the sea
well I hope I have helped out
toodles! ~katwashala
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Don't look down on yourself. Here's the thing, some guys like one type of girl, and not another. Just because he doesn't like you like that doesn't mean that other guys won't.
I would just be straightforward with him. Tell him that you're sorry things left off on an awkward note and that you want to start over. Even do something clever like saying "Hi, my name is ____" and reach to shake his hand. It's something goofy and silly that will help break the ice :-)
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