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Very Complicated Situation.
To make a very long story short there's this guy at my school that I really, really like. I've liked him since last year and I never really stopped. Over the summer I thought that maybe I'd gotten over him because I didn't really think about him but seeing him again this year brought back all my feelings for him. The only thing that REALLY sucks is that I don't know him. I don't have any classes with him, I'm not friends with any of his friends, I've never really talked to him.. I know it's completely lame to like someone I don't know and I've tried getting over him but I can't. I've liked other guys but each time I end up comparing them to him.
You're probably wondering how I could like a guy I don't know so much and the truth is, no matter how shallow it sounds, that he's really good looking. But that's not the only reason I'm attracted to him. I've seen him when he's with his friends and I can just tell that he's a genuinely nice, amazing guy. One of my best girl friends is in his class this year and she had to work with him on an assignment and she told me just how nice and smart he really is. That he's not stuck up, conceited, and snobby like most guys who, if they looked like him, were as popular as him, etc. would act. She's trying to become closer friends with him so that she could introduce us but it's not that easy. And I'm tired of liking him so much and not being able to do anything about it. I want to be able to talk to him and hang out with him and stuff.
My main problem really is that I'm super shy and self-conscious. I'm usually like that with new people but when it comes to the guy I like then it's about ten times worse. Most of my friends tell me that I should just go up to him and try to strike up a conversation but I can't because I just freeze up! Most of my friends also think that he may like me too because some of the things he does kind of hint at him possibly liking me but I don't really know what to think. I guess it could be because I don't wanna get my hopes up but I don't know! Please help me! I don't know what to do and I need major help! Any advice will be greatly appreciated!
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Girl, NEVER feel bad about being shallow. Anyway, take it from someone who moved to ANOTHER COUNTRY for a perfect stranger she fell in love with but knew nothing about, the worst feeling is regretting not having tried when you had the chance. It could be that he's just shy. Honestly, it's also a possiblity that he hasn't approached you cause he doesn't like you [but let's ignore that for now]. You guys don't know each other, meaning just like you don't know how he feels about you, he has no clue you like him. If you don't have classes with any of his friends, take advantage of the fact that your friend is his project partner. See if there's a way that she could invite him to her house, and then show up COMPLETELY by mistake ;). Add him on myspace, facebook, or aim. If all else fails, you're gonna have to catch him when he's alone and talk to him [which is actually not a terrible idea to begin with]. Make sure to catch his attention and smile often, and brush past him, touch his hand with yours, or accidentally bump into him. Close encounters will increase the chances of him approaching you. It's really not as complicated as it seems. And really, don't let yourself regret not having apmething with him because of shyness. It's a horrible feeling. Good luck <3.
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First off, sounds like you've got a very nice friend helping you out here. Its too bad you dont have any classes with him, but do you have any classes with any of his friends? Why not try becoming friendly with someone he is close to cause it might be easier for you to open up to someone else since you get so nervous around this guy you like. Does he play any sports? You could attend one of his games and if you see him before the game maybe just give him a "good luck" or something. That casual and at least you could break the ice. Just remember though that everything happens for a reason and if it doesn't work out then it doesn't and there are plenty of other fish in the sea :)
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