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how to win back my ex?
15/f
Me and my ex liked each for a long time and then started going out at the beginning of september last year, and we broke up in december.
But even though we weren't officially going out after that we were still one of those couples, we were always on and off, we always liked each other and we were more than friends.
But then a few weeks ago we had hardly seen each other and he started to like someone else (who is actually a lot like me) and he told me he was over me.
I still really like him and at first I was trying to get over him, but then me and him started hanging out a lot, acting like we used to and flirting. He's mentioning this other girl less, although I know he still likes her. He always invites me out and if I say I can't come he always acts upset like he really wants me to come. The other day we spoke for like an hour on the phone, I always catch him looking at me the way he used to, and we make a lot of eye contact. And when someone mentioned this other guy (someone I met and who I do like but only in a harmless way and who has a gf anyway) he got all quiet.
I really want to be with him, I just don't know how to win him over. I mean, I think he likes me and he think he likes the other girl.
How do I get him to want to be with me again?
(and don't suggest ignoring him or spending time apart because that kind of thing doesn't work with him)
Thanks, x
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Forgive me if my advice sounds mixed up. I'll try to make this not-confusing :]
He likes another girl. This girl must like him too, because she's only not dating him because he's confused about how he feels about you/isn't yet over you. He has two girls who like him, and yet he's single. Obviously he can't make up his mind [yet] and should best be left alone[single].
It's entirely possible that he still cares about you. This would explain the texts, and hanging out/flirting. Exes can be friends, and even still check up on each other to make sure you're okay and such. Yeah, it really sucks sometimes because it can result in mixed signals. And it can be interpreted wrong too, trust me I know firsthand. =/
So, ultimately you broke up for a reason. Have you talked to him straight up about this whole thing? It's the only definitive way to know how he feels. You'll find out right from the source if he's still not over you, or wants to be with this other girl. Maybe he's hung up on thinking that you're not over him and is contemplating this the same way. Talk to him; it's the best way. As for how to do this? Just blurt it out- "I want to be with you again". Don't dance around the subject.
-LM
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