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long term realitonship/ what type of girl am i?
well iam dateing a guy who is in college & iam in high school he is also btw he is 19 i am 16. we met through friends & well we knw each other not much but still enough to asked me out, yet he wants us know each other more, so a few days ago we decieded 2 watch movies @ his house, that time we first held hands sooner or later it got too dark to go home, so he told me i could spend the night i asked him where will i sleep?he said i had to sleep next to him beacuse, his roomate would be not happy if she found out a girl slept in her room. anyway, nothing much happened, except i felt his heart beat so fast cause, he wanted us to hug, i decied to give him a good night kiss on the cheek yet he took it the wrong way and he thought i wanted to kiss more so he kissed me for a long time,but i honestly did not like it, i only thought if i did that he would like me more, after that i told him i would not kiss him anymore untill we were in a realionship.cause that night i thought to myself what type of girl am i to do so much on a first date. the only reason i went along with it is casue, i thought he would aske me out the next day.
the next night at my house,he told me on the phone that he had 9 girl friends before and that he is thinking of the negitave ways we should not start a realtionship, long term was the big reason and he has not deciede yet.i felt i was being used and it made me feel sad.
would i be considered a bad girl since i let a guy who is not my even my boyfriend, get close to me!?? and what should i do i like him alot but, should i keep waiting for him or forget him?
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First off, totally forget this guy. He is only trying to use you and has known this all along. He is what they call a "player" and knows what to say and do to get into your pants for what he wants.
He said the right things and got you to spend the night. He said the right things and got you to get into the bed with him. He really expected you to have sex with him. THAT is what he cared about.
Next, never ever put yourself in this situation again. Being invited to stay at the opposite gender's house is actually an invitation for sex, believe it or not. I know you may be young and didn't have that knowledge but now you do. The fact that he confirmed you would be sleeping next to him was him saying, "We will be having sex, duh!"
It's okay to be naive the first time around as long as you learned a lesson. You didn't do wrong since you didn't go any further than a kiss, but you definately should have said something when you felt things were getting out of hand. If you hadn't of said something, you could end up now with question of: "Am I pregnant?!"
Next time if you feel uncomfortable you need to stop what is happening and speak up. You should have felt uncomfortable getting into the bed with him. Next time think things through and what the motivation for the other person is so you won't be hurt, used, abused, and left.
Learn a lesson and don't do this again.
An invitation to spend the night is an invitation to have sex--always, plain and simple.
You're not a bad girl, you just didn't know any better. Now you know and from here you can make the right decisions.
Please forget about this guy.
You didn't have sex with him and he felt let down so, of course, he's going to say things like, "Well, I am having negative thoughts about you being my girlfriend because I've had 9 girlfriends in the past and..."
See, he's trying to make you feel guilty so you'll give in soon and he can get some sex out of you. DO NOT GIVE IN TO THIS!
He does not care about you. He wants you to feel bad and want him even more so he can have sex and still just be friends.
If he cared he wouldn't have pushed the make-out session. If he cared, he would have slept on the couch or the floor and let you sleep in the bed so you didn't feel pressured to have sex. If he honestly, truly wanted to be your boyfriend he would have definately said so by now--boys are pretty clear about these sorts of things.
I hope I've helped you understand the situation you had put yourself in so you won't do that again. If you have any more questions, please feel free to ask me!
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