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flirting
You answered my question about how i thought my friend was flirting with the guy i like. I liked your advice so i wanted to give you some more info about what she is doing. And, like you said, i think she is trying to prove to me that he would like her over me even if she dosent like him. Now that you have pointed that out to me, i have noticed it. Well, at the beginning of class, she wrote me a note that said, "You and jared(the guy i like) would be so cute together." And i was like well maybe she isn't flirting and all that and then i wrote back and told her that i didn't know if he liked me or not and she said she would find out. Well the whole class they were either hugging, laughing together really hard, or talking. They had a really long convo and it was forever and they were kind of off by theirselves. I thought it was her trying to find out if he liked me but when i asked her after class if she found out and it took her a long time to figure out what i meant so i know thats not what they were talking about the whole time. She was like "oh, he said he didn't know." I was feeling kind of down the whole time after that class and she didn't even recognize my sadness. I don't think she knows what she is doing. I mean, i think that she thinks i won't get mad or something but i do. It might just be her personality but i've had 3 other people come up to me and say "why is your friend flirting with the guy you like?" I mean, they are noticing it to so obviously it is obvious. i have already confronted her about it once and she was like "oh, he is just my friend, i wasn't flirting, he is all yours." But then she goes around and does it again. It seems kinda like he if flirting back though when she does it to though. That's just his peronality though. Like today he hugged her from behind and said "oh, kaysy, help me with this." He was talking about our assignment. I mean, i actually find a guy i really like and then she does this to me. She has had tons of guys and i have only had 2 in my whole life and never been kissed and she has to do this to me. Everytime, we see him in the hall on the wasy to his class or something, she is like "lets go talk to jared." I am like "why do u care so much?" I don't really want to talk to her about it either. Also, now since that happned i don't know how to act around her. I mean, i am very mad but i don't usually show my emotions to people. I don't know what to say to her or how to act around her anymore. What should i do? I am very sorry this is so long but i loved your advice and depend on it so i thought you could help me with this. Thanks!
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Well I'm glad you think my advice is helpful. :) Have you ever seen the movie Mean Girls? If you have, then you're fimilar with the part where Cady asks Regina to go talk to the guy she likes for her and Regina says she will but instead she just flirts with him and tries to get him to go out with her! I totally see this going on with you. I was right about your friend, she's competing with you. I have one of these friends of my own, like I said before. My friend can get anyyy guy she wants and the second I found one that I really really liked, she was all over him. So she is JUST like your friend. You know what I think it is? Your friend is actually a really jealous and insecure person. She doesn't want you to have this guy because then it'll feel like it's something she can't have. And I still sort of feel bad for the guy that's being caught in the middle of this because he has NO idea what's going on! haha, and of course if a girl flirts with him, he's going to flirt back, that's how all guys are.
So here's what I think you should do..
Take the initiative. If you have something to say to him, say it to him directly! Don't relay it with your friend, because OBVIOUSLY the information you're telling her to send him is not transferring the way it should! Do you have his cell number? If you don't, then ask for it. It doesn't really seem like a big deal.. but that's a huge step. If you ask for it, then ask if he has texting. If he does, text him! Eventaully call him. Then ask him if he has plans for friday night :) This is going to spell it out CLEAR that you're interested in him. It may sound scary to have to ask him all these things but don't chicken out! If you like this guy enough, you'll do it. Trust me, it moves so fast and the conversation will flow and before you know it it's over and you'll feel GREAT!
This way, the guy knows you're interested and the girl has no way of interfering! and plus, guys love girls who take action because it makes them seem confident and self aware!
Sorry for such a long response again! I just really want to help :) haha So please try this! It's definitely going to pay off!
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