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Was I used?
Last year, I met/dated this guy. I was 14, he was 18. We only went out for like a week but we still talked/hung out. I really liked this boy and I guess he knew that, he was using me. We hung out when he was bored, when he felt like fooling around I guess. I was a virgin though, and I wasnt ready to give that up, he never pressured me too either. Then he moved to another state, after about 2 months of living there he visited. We'd been talking, and we decided to hang out when he visited...we'd been talking about having sex. He knew I was a virgin and he said i didnt have to if i didn't want too, that we'd still hang out. I thought I was ready, that I wanted to. I really liked him, loved him even..and I knew he at least liked me, just not enough to stay around. Anyway, he came down and we ended up having sex.I found out the next day that he'd met up with his ex-gf[whose still totally in love with him] and slept with her too. Same weekend. Me and her became best friends.I went months without talking to him, then he came back.After a couple months of being back, he starts showing up at my house.We start hanging out a lot. It was innocent at first.Then we're at the movies and he kisses me.We talked about everything, he tells me he likes me.We start dating again, i'm totally happy. I lose my best friend, his ex. But..I love him. He tells me he loves me. I believe him, it was the look in his eyes. I could see love in there.We were together for only a month and a half. He breaks up with me. He had to start school/get a job. Lots of reasons, basically "I'm a distraction." I can't explain everything he said to me...it all made sense though. But maybe he was just using me again. Was he? I love him. I really do, theres no doubt about it. Its so hard to get over him, I want to call him. I want to see him. But I can't, I won't. I want him to miss me. But maybe he wont. And when he does, will he call me just for sex? I think thats my question, do you think he used me? I know he'll talk to me again eventually, he always does...if I allow him too, will he just be using me again?(I'm now 15, almost 16; he is now 19.)
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Ahh same situation as me!
i was talking with this guy for a year,and he would text me only sometimes and say "why dont we hang out anymore?" or "why wont you talk to me" things of that nature.I would think oh he still likes me,he must miss me.I would hang out with him and then we would end up making out when we hung out,then he would text me and not stop talking about when he kissed me like he was proud of it or something,then he would ask me how "far" i would go with him.He also told me he did'nt want anything serious which crushed me because i was really falling for the guy.It was difficult because he was in one of my classes and my bus and he would never talk to me in school which made things awkward for me because i wondered why he wouldnt talk to me?(He got with one of my good friends too,i told him i was upset about that and he said im sorry i was "drunk",i dont really talk to that friend anymore because she betrayed me)i knew i was used,i shouldve stopped it the first time he said he didnt want anything,but i kept believing oh maybe he'll change his mind or but he really likes me.I was denying the fact that he was using me,i hated to be thought of like that.I'm actually still struggling with it,because he is still trying to talk to me.
That was from my experience.I know it's difficult to come to grips with but im sorry hun but he used you.I mean, a guy who takes something so important to you and sleeps with another girl the next night? thats awful and im so sorry that it happened to you.And the whole "your a distraction" line is bull,i've heard that one before myself,he just wants to "play" and not have to worry about being tied down to anyone.In my opinion,i think that you should cut all ties off with this guy.If he texts you or calls you ignore him.Whatever you do DONT start talking to him again because that's what he wants,he knows whenever he calls you you'll come running because he knows he "has" you.Best thing for you to do is move on,your young! you have plenty of time to find that speical someone.There's alot of other guys out there who will treat you with the dignity and respect that you deserve,don't go back to a loser like that guy.
i hope i could help hun tell me how everything goes! and if you need anymore help just leave another in my inbox ;)
♥ danielle
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