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I am to shy :(
I am WAY to shy! I am starting highschool this year, in 2 weeks and I REALLY want to make some new friends. I mean, I guess I have a lot of friends but I'm finding it more and more difficult to act like myself around them. Even my best friend in the world can't entertain me. I can't hold up a conversation at ALL so I usually find myself complaining about something as a sort of "default conversation topic", which I KNOW people find complaining annoying but it's better to be talking about something than not be talking at all right?? I just don't know how to do this. I'd like to have a little group of best friends that all like each other and then a larger group of friends to hang with and stuff. Most of my friends don't really like each other, unfortunately :( there's also this little group of friends I know that are really cool and we have a lot in common but i'm not sure how I would approach them...I just don't know. PLEASE help me!!!
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If you wanted to know about your first year of high school, here's something that may help you:
I was a freshman two years ago- and I have to say.. it was one of the most scary things I've EVER experienced! I was thrown in the trash can on the first day and it was horrible. Some kid even had to go to the emergency room! It was the WORST first day of school of my entire life! I almost didn't go back!
Haha- so hopefully you didn't take that seriously- because it really wasn't like that at all. I always play that trick on people who ask this question. C'mon- I gotta have a little fun! High school is NOT scary. It actually is a lot more fun. You have more freedoms than middle school and you can take REALLY awesome classes. If you have to chance to take a Speech class- DO IT! You think it will be the dumbest class ever and you'll be really bored- but you get the chance to get really good at speeches- and you'll learn really awesome things! When you get to be a Junior/Senior- take AP and Honors classes- these will impress colleges and they will want you to go to their college if you do well enough on them.
People may tell you that Freshmen year doesn't count for anything- so slacking off won't matter until you're an upperclassmen. This is wrong. Colleges will look at your cumulative GPA- and that includes your freshmen year. Don't slack off; you'll regret it later.
Just to debunk the rumor- There is NOT a "Freshmen Friday". Sure, this used to exist back in the 60s and 70s, but it doesn't anymore. Any school that actually still does it will probably end up getting sued by a bunch of parents. So most don't do it. Chances are, your high school won't do it.
Here is my list of DOs and DON'Ts:
Do:
-Do all of your homework.
-Make new friends [some old ones will naturally just fade away] and do this by just starting up simple conversations with people- and it will eventually lead to a great friendship. Ask someone you may want to get to know for a pencil in class.. that's a classic. Sit with new people at lunch.
-Ask the teacher for help if you need it.
Don't:
-Don't talk to seniors.. they most likely DON'T like you. The won't give you any respect.
-Don't wear revealing clothing- seniors will automatically hate you.
All in all- if you just be yourself- you'll be fine. If you have upperclassmen in any classes- you'll get to know them over the course of the year- and you may end up meeting some really great people. I know that some of my best friends I met at school freshmen year- and most of them were 10th grade or older. Not all seniors hate you- some will be welcoming- but just assume the worst in them, at first. After awhile- you'll know who to avoid and who to warm up to. You'll be fine. Don't worry.
--Jack
(16/m/Junior)
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Being shy is honestly extremly common and normal. The only way to get over it though, is to conquer your fears. I know how hard it can be, I've been there with other fears too. If your in Science class one day and a girl has a shirt on you like, just say "I like your shirt." That happened with my little sister (but it was shoes) her and that girl have been best friends for years. It's all about over coming fear, once you can get past the whole scaryness of talking to someone you don't know you can meet more people.
If your having a hard time talking to people your already friends with, don't talk. If your friends into soccer, go out side and play. I can almost garuntee you, it will lead to some sort of conversation. If they like theater, watch a play (maybe DVD version though), theres endless possibilities, it just takes some creativity.
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