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boyfriend/best guy friend.
okay. so, i met this guy online. (i already know its dangerous, dont preach at me, lol.) I met him about a year and nine months ago. and he and have become best friends over that time. i also have a boyfriend who i love very much and he and i have been dating for a year and seven or eight months. well, the guy i met online sort of developed more than friend feelings for me. and, i am not going to lie, i have them for him, too. but i love my boyfriend. however, i love my best friend, too. i'm just not sure if i love him as just a best friend or both...
he knows everything about my relationship with my boyfriend, and he hates him. thats probably because my boyfriend isnt always the nicest person in the world to me. i mean, he isnt abusive or anything, just sometimes really controlling and overbearing. my best guy friend is the opposite. he is such a sweetheart. i am just so confused, though.
my boyfriend and i have also been arguing a lot and i told my bff that and he said he wants to be with me, he loves me so much, and i think i might want to be with him, too. and i told him that...and now he wants me to choose between him and my boyfriend...and it is hard. i dont know what to do.
i seriously think about my best guy friend all the time. every day. maybe even more than my boyfriend...and my boyfriend doesnt even know about him =(. if he did he would break up with me.
should i break up with my boyfriend and be with my best guy friend, who my feelings are growing for by the minute? or stay with my boyfriend and crush my best guy friend?
oh. btw, my boyfriend and i are 17 and my bff is 18. my bff lives about 4 or 5 hours away and my boyfriend is thinking about moving in with me...but if he doesnt he will live about 3 hours away.
thanks for your help
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You have to answer this question for me:
If your best friend was not in the picture, would you be doubting your relationship with your boyfriend right now?
If the answer is yes, then I say break up with him. You said it yourself, he can be controlling and overbearing, which may become conflict later in your relationship.
If the answer is no, then you have some thinking to do. If you weren't doubting your relationship before, or at least, if you weren't realizing how poorly he treats you before your best friend, well then I would say you should stay with your boyfriend, but if you were realizing how poorly he treats you, but not doubting the relationship, then that's where it gets tough.
I say if you really feel like you would be happier with your best friend, and you feel like you could really hold a long-distance relationship with him, I say why not try it? It could be the best decision you ever make. Life is about making decisions and living with them. You just have to decide who you see yourself with in the long-run: your boyfriend now or your best friend.
--Jack
(16/m)
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