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the guy i was dating...
i was dating this guy, let's name him buttercup. we WERE supposed to go out, but then he was pretty busy with summer school and all of that stuff. and then, i didn't really like him anymore, so i told him so i wouldn't lead him on or anything. and i told him the reason why i started not liking him anymore, and ever since.. i haven't talked to him. it's almost been two months now. on the same day i told him, we decided to stay away from each other for a month or two because we noticed that we were just rushing into our feelings and we didn't take our time getting to know each other and all of that. so we stopped talking for a while, and my best friend was there for me. and let's just call him, blossom. and then i started liking blossom... and then i went out with blossom later on. and then buttercup went around telling people that i "played him, ditched him, then went out with another guy". i'm not a player or anything like that, because at least i didn't talk to him at the same time as blossom... because i couldn't get over buttercup, blossom was there for me. and it's about a month now since i've talked to him. and the thing is... i want us to still be friends, but i'm not sure if he's still mad at me or anything. but like he says "the past is the past". i know i have to message him.. and he'd probably want an explanation.. but what is there to explain?
what should i say to him? this is bothering me.. i don't want us to become enemies.. i want us to talk as friends. i don't want to talk to him after me and blossom breaks up, because that'd just be weird. what should i say? PLEASE & THANK YOU!
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You've already explained to "buttercup" why you didn't rush into dating him, and it seems like both of you agreed to not talk for awhile for the sake of sparing awkwardness.
Therefore, he can't be mad at you for dating someone else. That's just jealousy, and that emotion is hardly ever justified.
If you want to be friends with him, tell him. If he thinks you should still talk about what happened with you two, and you feel comfortable doing that, then do it, then after that, forget about it and just be friends without thinking about your past. I have a friend right now who is actually one of my best friends who I used to like three years ago, and we didn't talk for almost three months, but we ended up forgetting about how I liked her [I don't anymore] and we just focused on having a good time together.
--Jack
(16/m)
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