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heart broken...
i was goin with this guy for six months.i fell in love with him and he fell in love with me.school eneded june 4th and i havnt seen him since then.im changing schools this year and i asked my bf if he could try to see if he could go to the same school as me.he tried really hard but unfortunately hes not in the district of the school and i am.i started to realize that i cant handle not knowing when im going to see him again.its not like i can ask my parents if i can go to the movies with him.my parents have me on a tight leash.i started crying when he told me he didnt get into the school i was going to.i told him i didnt think it was goin to work because i really cant handle an over the phone relationship. and he started crying...and let me tell u he is not the type to cry.ive never seen him cry and to hear him break down and cry made my heart drop and i couldnt stop the tears from coming down.he said he understood where i was coming from.i just dont know where to go from now.my friends say to keep being friends but i dont know if that will complicate things or what.and every time i think about hearing him cry i brake down and i just know that when i call him again im gonna break down inside!he said he still wanted to talk to me and he wasnt mad but...i just dont where to go from here...
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To begin with, if you love each other, is there no way you can try to make it work? I didn't go to the same school as my ex and that was never a problem, we just made time to see each other. Yes, it was more difficult and I would have liked to see him more, but it some ways it was better because it meant that we always looked forward to seeing each other and it was more special when we did. You say you're in love, so try! You managed for six months, why not now?
If it's your parents who are the problem, spend more time together at your house. If your parents get to know and trust him, then they are more likely to let you go and see him.
If you really don't think it's going to work, then you need to cut off all contact with him. I know it sounds harsh, but there is no way that you can try and be friends if you both still have feelings for each other. Trust me, I've been there. You need to stay away from him and avoid contacting him until you feel you can do so without getting upset. If you try and stay friends this early then you're right, it will complicate things. You won't be able to get over each other if you're still spending time together or calling each other.
If you don't feel you can do it, delete his number. I'm serious. You WILL feel tempted to call/text/IM him and that is not a good idea. Delete his number, remove him from your contact lists on AIM/Facebook/whatever. It sounds drastic, but virtually every website and self help book about break-ups will tell you that it's the best way - and in my experience this is true.
It will get easier eventually. Breaking up is always hard - trust me, I've been there - but you won't always feel this way.
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