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confused on where its headed ..
So me and my fwb (friend with benefits) have been hooking up since last week. Sorry, this question might be a little long :/
He's 17/m and I'm 16/f.
We used to hookup earlier (around january) but I really messed that up by getting with someone else and just recently he's forgiven me. His close guy friend tells me the reason he got so angry was because he liked me (During then I couldn't establish between him liking me or just wanting some) I was pretty stupid because he would come down every weekend for me and I still couldn't tell that he liked me. After the whole thing I asked if he wanted anything and he said no. (I meant like hooking up, but I did want a relationship with him) Now every since we've started hooking up again I've had to make all the effort to hangout with him. I'm really falling for him now and I know he's not getting with anyone else, but I'm not sure if he wants a relationship and I'm afraid he's just keeping me around to mess with. He's sending so many mixed signals, for example:
- We usually text every day and since my phone is messed up, I somtimes don't get his texts. So after a day or two he'll usually write me something like "Hey, way to respond to me" (joking)
- When we see each other we usually don't talk for awhile. His guy friend says he's really shy.
- I always have to make the plans to hangout. I don't know if it's just that he wants me to come to him or he's too shy to ask.
- Whenever we start kissing, it's always me that leans in.
- When we hangout, we usually only do something for a little bit. Eventually, we end up having sex or messing around. This is mainly why I feel somewhat used, but to be honest I don't mind it because I like him so badly. We only see each other maybe once a week which is why when we do see each other, we want to do stuff.
His shyness yet willingness to do stuff just has me so confused. I feel like it's too early to ask him if he likes me since we've only hooked up once since the whole ordeal. But at the same time, I don't want to continue on doing this If I'm only going to end up hurt. Does he seem like he likes me or am I just wasting my time? And what should I do? Thanks :)
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There's only one thing you can do: talk to him about how you feel. If you want a relationship, then asking him if he wants one too is clearly the smartest move. Leaving things the way they are will either a) hurt you or b) cause you and him to like each other secretly. Why keep your feelings hidden?
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i just recently ended a "fling" with a guy who i thought was going to ask me to be his girlfriend.We went to prom together,and like went on sort of dates,i guess you could call them? he was a shy kid too,and i thought he would'nt be like all the other jerks i was with and actually take me places and then eventually ask me to be his girlfriend,That wasent the case.We were "together" for about 2 months then in his truck he said let's just be friends,he was a a**hole,i cried that entire night.So truth is i should've ended it before i got any further because i really liked him.I felt like a piece of trash.I always had to make plans to hang out,and had to lean in to kiss him( which i never do).So i'm sorry to say this but i don't want you to get hurt like i did,i would end it now with him if your having sex with the guy and your not even together,i highly doubt he's going to ask you to be with him.He's playing you.Go for a guy who will make you feel special,will go out of his way to do anything for you,and treats you with respect.Dont worry,your going to find him.And when you do,don't let him get away :)
♥ danielle
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